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Is is okay to catch the bouquet if your engaged?

My friends say yes because your not actually married-and still are somewhat single-but I don't know what would be the best idea!

Re: Is is okay to catch the bouquet if your engaged?

  • Well, I am engaged and at my uncle's wedding in February my female family members forced me out on the floor for the bouquet toss. But it was a bunch of little girls, like kids, out there with me so I crouched down on my knees to be the same height as them and sort of made it humorous. I did not catch the bouquet, either, as the little girls were SO excited about that part.
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    I think it's perfectly acceptable to hide in the bathroom during the bouquet toss. That's what I always did when I was single.
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  • I think anyone should be allowed to catch.. or avoid the bouquet.

    I think it's supposed to be for those who aren't married, yet, though. And since being engaged isn't married yet... I guess it's ok.

    I also heard that it's only for single (not even a boyfriend).


    Honestly, I avoid that bouquet like the plague, so I'm not the best person to be answering this, probably.
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  • I've always found it hard to catch the bouquet from the bar.
  • No, it will retroactively invalidate their marriage.
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    Because you might jinx it?

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  • You'll probably spontaneously combust when it touches you.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_okay-catch-bouquet-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8439f8d5-5507-46af-877f-3f8c5b32b7edPost:80975eb8-f6a9-4965-8bdb-395c933407ab">Re: Is is okay to catch the bouquet if your engaged?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think it's perfectly acceptable to hide in the bathroom during the bouquet toss. That's what I always did when I was single.
    Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

    I like this answer best.

    But really, OP, are you sure you'll catch it? Are you planning on trampling the flower girl to get there, hell or high water? You might want to bring a pair of flats with you. The girls in stilettos won't stand a chance.
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  • if there arent that many girls standing up there i usually stand up there but not catch it
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  • I say yes since you aren't married yet.
  • I caught the bouquet at my brothers wedding, and it didn't do me any good since I wasn't the next one to get married or whatever. So I avoid it too.
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  • Yes, I guess it's okay.  You're probably going to be one of the next if not the next to marry anyway.  But why even participate.

    I hate the bouquet toss.  Why assume all single girls are dying to be next one married?  I'm not doing it.
  • At my sister's wedding, the DJ was really insane about getting all the single ladies up there.  I just stood in the back and looked disinterested.  There's always hiding. 
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  • this is one tradition that i wish would dig a grave and die.  when you are in your early 20s it can be kind of fun, but the the bride usually aims it straight at the maid of honor and you stood there to be made a fool for the crowd.

    by the tiime you are 35 and they are dragging you out onto the--its more than embarrassing.  i agree with hiding in the bathroom : )
  • count me in for hiding during the bouquet toss during the single days. I hated that part. once, I did catch it accidentally. didn't get married until 6 years later.
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  • At the last wedding I went to, I really wanted to go out there but my maid of honor who was also at the wedding told me i couldn't because I wasn't single. She is in a long term relationship but not engaged and she said she couldn't go out either because she wasn't single. I thought that was weird and I was a little disapointed but I didn't want to break some etiquette rule.  
  • I hate the bouquet toss.  Solve the problem by not doing it!  I'm all about conveniently getting a drink refill at that moment . . .
  • I'm not wanted in the family anymore because I allowed my 15 year old (at the time) daughter participate in the bouquet toss.  She dove in front of the MOH (engaged) to win!

    That didn't sit well with the bride or her MOH
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_okay-catch-bouquet-engaged?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8439f8d5-5507-46af-877f-3f8c5b32b7edPost:eeb65fa8-e0ea-48f3-88da-245ac8841291">Re: Is is okay to catch the bouquet if your engaged?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm not wanted in the family anymore because I allowed my 15 year old (at the time) daughter participate in the bouquet toss.  She dove in front of the MOH (engaged) to win! That didn't sit well with the bride or her MOH
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  • Thanks for the responses, i'll probabley be at the bar-the best place to try to catch the boquet!
  • Also, Between now and my wedding, I have about 5 weddings to attend-which Im in 2 of them. I'll just try to be at the bar....thanks everyone!
  • I am all for the bouquet toss, but the wedding I was at this weekend, the DJ kicked me out for being engaged. BUT that surprisingly made me very happy and made my engagement sink in even more! :) I will gladly take being engaged over trying to catch the bouquet!
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