Hello everyone I'm new to the boards, so I just wanted to introduce myself and ask your opinions on a few things.
FI and I got engaged recently, but due to graduation/work plans, we won't be getting married until 2014.
FI and I are both Indian. However, I have grown up in the U.S. my whole life, and FI has grown up in India. He came to the U.S. about 3 years ago to study.
Growing up in the U.S., I never imagined that I would get married in India. My whole life is here, so I always assumed I'd be getting married here, too, in the presence of my close family friends and everyone I've grown up with. Of course, everything changed after I met FI, and I couldn't be happier.
BUT, with FI's entire family (immediate and extended) and friends and all important people in his life in India and my extended family in India as well, it would just be more suitable for us to marry in India.
I have to admit, I'm more than a little bummed about not being able to get married in front of the people who have invested so much into my life, and instead, celebrating this day with my grandparents' second cousins and a bunch of relatives/friends of relatives, many of whom I've never met before! (I’m not saying I don’t want my extended family at our wedding, I would just like to celebrate with my family friends AND our relatives, if at all possible.)
I know that of course not everyone can travel from here to India for a wedding. But, I DO think that there are some who would be willing and able to travel to India, provided they had significant advance notice.
So, here is my dilemma: Should I invite everyone that I would normally invite if I were getting married here? Or would it be silly to even think that they would travel so far for a wedding? If I did invite them, how early should I invite them?
One thing I hadn’t even thought about until I saw someone else post was that, if you invite lots of people whom you know won’t be able to attend, it will look like you are gift-grabbing. I definitely don’t want people to think that! I genuinely would like for them to be a part of this special day!
Is anyone else in this situation? Sorry this is such a long read, but ideas/suggestions/opinions would be appreciated!
Oh, and having 2 weddings (one in India, one in the U.S.) is not an option.
Also, I know this is super early to even be thinking about all this, but I just love wedding planning/everything wedding-related, and this has been on my mind since before we got engaged! Lol
Thanks in advance!