sister's second wedding-- guidance needed!

IamMrs.C · March 2012

Hi. My sister, who is in her mid-forties, is getting engaged. She was married about 10 years ago for 2 years but had no kids. Her new guy is also in his forties but was never married and also has no kids. My sister's previous wedding was in a Catholic church and had about 225 guests. I think she will have a smaller affair this time around, although it might be an issue for her future in-laws that she will not be able to get married in a Catholic church since they are Catholic and pretty religious. Anyhoo, I am her only sister and was her maid of honor last time. Do second time brides usually have bridesmaids? Do I throw another bridal shower? I am very excited for her but ignorant about second wedding etiquette. Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks! Mrs. C

right1thistime · March 2012

Ask your sister what she would like as far as showers are concerned. But do let her know how happy you are for her, and that you want to celebrate her joy. She may prefer a smaller scale girls day out, spa visit, luncheon or something. And if she wanted to celebrate with the world the first time around, she may want to do so again, and there's nothing wrong with that!

If you can be excited for her, she won't be here telling us how no one is interested. ~Donna

MikesAngie · March 2012

Yes, all things that happen in a first marriage can happen for a second. The days of being ashamed of finding love again are over! She can have bridesmaids, maid or matron of honor, wear white and even a veil if she wants. It's wonderful that you are supportive of her and excited for her, believe me it does make a difference.

She could file for an annulment from her first husband through the Catholic church but it does take time. I'm not Catholic but have seen plenty of posts about it.

Sue-n-Kevin · March 2012

I got married for the first time last August, it was my hubby's 3rd marriage. I was raised Catholic, but for personal reasons going through an annulment of his 2 prior marriages and getting married in the Catholic Church wasn't that important to me.

It's up to your sister to decide the wedding she wants. I agree with the prior posters that you should let her know you are happy she found love again, and whatever she decides she wants, you will support her.

Tell her to join the Knot and come visit with us, LOL.