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How involved was FI (or DH) in wedding planning

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Re: How involved was FI (or DH) in wedding planning

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    weezie825weezie825 member
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    edited December 2011
    DI was surprised at how involved DH wanted to be in the wedding planning.  I had expected him to take a back seat, but he really wanted to participate.  The only thing he wasn't really involved in was selecting my dress and my MOH's dress.

    H and I make a pretty good team.  I am very analytical and enjoy research, so I researched all the vendor decisions and came up with a list of 3 - 5 acceptable vendors in our price range for each category.  We did the interviews together and came to a decision together.

    For the creative stuff, like our inbvitation, I used MS Publisher to make several mock ups with different wordings and fonts and then DH picked picked his favorite.  Then we tweaked the design together.
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    strawberrycrzstrawberrycrz member
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    edited December 2011
    He feels very strongly about certain things, but others he will just give his ideas and let me choose what I want.  While I'm glad that our wedding will be "ours", sometimes I wish he just didn't care so I could do what I want. I really do appreciate the fact that he does take interest though.  Let's me know I'm not the only one who wants to plan a great day.
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    LauraT25LauraT25
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    edited December 2011
    I have been surprised at how involved FI has been so far.  I wanted him to be involved in the big decisions, but I figured I'd narrow everything down to a few choices and let him have a say - and I also thought he might just sort of nod and point and then go back to whatever he was doing.  That's been the case for some things, but he has had a lot more opinions than I expected (for better or for worse!).

    He also gets way more excited about things than I thought he would be.  He gets happy when we get RSVPs, he gets mushy about ceremony stuff, he texts me with ideas for music, etc.  He even designed our save-the-dates after I sent him one just expecting his approval (or a 'whatever you want', actually).  I still have to get on his case to do stuff (getting addresses, for example) but overall he's been shockingly involved.
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    SweetCFlySweetCFly
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    edited December 2011
    My DH was awesome with the planning actually.  He got pretty opinionated at times, but it was good.  If we were spending that much money on a wedding, I wanted him to be involved, have a say and not just be a fluff about it.  It actually made things easier sometimes.  I think his favorite part was picking out the cake at the tasting with Mary Elliott, and also at our dinner tasting at the Tremont.  He loves to eat! 
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    rands09rands09
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    edited December 2011
    My hubby really didn't go in too much for the detail planning (ie: colors, linens, etc.)...but was more interested in keeping the event on budget! He is the one in our team who tends to be grounded about things like budget, so that was a good thing :-)
    If it was all left up to me, I'm sure I would have spared no expense...lol

    But for the most part, I made most of the decsisions - however, we always talked about the options together first. I've learned over the years how to make sure that all of the options were ones that he would be ok with, so I would just pick my favorites out of those, and in the end, we both ended up with a decision that we could live with!
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    JanoBean75JanoBean75
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    edited December 2011
    He likes to be asked, but aside from things like vows and food, he doesn't have any major opinions about anything.
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