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Pre-wedding Parties

Everything is going wrong....

My cousin shared the expense of her shower with a few of our family members. When we announced we were engaged, those same family members offered to "help" pay, make invites, make cupcakes, etc. I have been asked where I would like to have it (her words,not mine) what date I was thinking, who I would like to invite... Now I had two of these lovely ladies ask me when I was getting everyone together. I don't mind making decisions, and didn't know it was so faux pas to be so involved, but I also don't want to be rude and tell them to plan it themselves! I did some research and found a cost effective location that I really like (three of us are sharing the cost) and even bought a bunch of B&BW stuff for prizes, all before finding this board.....

So my questions:
Obviously they want me to plan a get together so we can sort out details. I would like to be a indian, but I have been elected chief. Do I just run with it? I don't see anyone stepping up.

A few people have offered to "help" with no explanation THIS is why you don't plan your own party girls!! How do I ask what they are going to help with, without sounding like that girl?? 

I know I should not be in this so deep, but a little late now. Help!

Re: Everything is going wrong....

  • Oh sweetie; I'm sorry. That doesn't sound like fun at all, escpecially having to reasearch another venue, price, etc. for a party in your honor! Aaaghh!

    Perhaps it's time for a meeting of the minds to let them know what your expectations are.That is, they behave like grown up hosts and get it together if they truly want to do the hosting.

    Your role in this is to offer a guest list and a date, then relax. The rest of the wedding planning is stressful enough without throwing another party.

    Good luck!
    Vacation White Knot
  • edited January 2012
    Thanks for the support girls! I dropped some hints that it was stressing me out and my Dad's completely awesome and wonderfully fabulous wife has taken over planning the get together! I know they are just trying to make me happy by letting me pick what I want, and I just wanted to make them happy but it's just too much stress. Now i'll go back to, I don't know, planning a wedding!
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