Small Vent....

HollyRae28 · May 2012

So... Let me start off by saying I know this is my fault... buttt...

Yesterday I posted the countdown of days until the wedding on FB.... (MISTAKE... I know!) Well... One of my "friends" posted on there... "Have you sent out invitations yet? I moved and want to get you the right address"

Ummm.... excuse me?! Whyyyy do people think they are automatically invited?! I barely talk to this girl! Uhhh frustrating!

I just wish I could post things about the wedding without people assuming they are invited!

BMcLeodTeam · May 2012

That's why this board is great, post to your hearts content and we won't try inviting ourselves to your wedding lol

smartlypretty · May 2012

Can I come to your wedding? Should I PM you my address?

:P just kidding. I've actually had a LOT of that, mostly at work. LIke, just because we are all together for 8 hours a day does NOT mean that we are BFF. WE DON'T EVEN HANG OUT TOGETHER AFTER WORK. Jeez Louise.

Fluffernut · May 2012

What? I assume I'm invited to all your weddings!!

But seriously, I know what you mean. I post a few things once in a while, but haven't gotten any, "oh, here's my address" comments. I don't know why people assume they are invited.

Nikki71 · May 2012

Eee that's ... rough. What did you say to her? I'd just ignore it, but that's probably not the right move haha

I did have a childhood friend FB message me a few times after seeing I was engaged on Facebook saying she was so thrilled for the bachelorette party.... then asking if she'd be a bridesmaid!!

ahhhh, she's not a BM and not going to the bachelorette. I did give in a little and invite her to the wedding though. It'd be nice to see her anyway.

abcollins08 · May 2012

Another reason for me not to post about my wedding on Facebook! I hate being put on the spot and having to tell someone "Sorry, but you're not invited." It makes me feel like the @$$ when they shouldn't have even asked in the first place.

rbwashington2012 · May 2012

I haven't had that problem. I have a lot of people comment on what I have done and seen pics and stuff. But overall, no one asking for an invite. Anyone that is invited that is on my FB page, we talk via messages back and forth to keep certain details private, like the after party that was originally planned but cancelled due to some family drama so we are doing our own thing. I wish someone would invite themselves or ask. Already had to be a bit rude to a few family members about that because they decided instead of talking to me, they were pressuring my mother. Not cool in my book.

QueerFemme · May 2012

I have had a few people comment or ask about invites. I actually had one friend ask how come I was taking so long to ask my friends to be IN the wedding. I responded, "Um, I already have". She said, "I'm not IN the wedding?"     Um no dear. you aren't.

I have answered all of those questions as honestly as possible without being harsh.   to the friend who asked about being IN the wedding, I responded that I am having my fiance's sister and my best friend, and that it would have never even occured to me that she would be interested, because we hardly ever speak or hang out. So, it surprises me that she would make that assumption".

To the "barely" friends on facebook that have asked for an invite, I have also been honest and said "I'm sorry, because of space and budget, we are only able to invite family and very close friends to the wedding".

Since I only see them on facebook and chat every once in a blue moon if I see them out or at another friend's home... so, the fact that they don't fall into "family or close friends", shouldn't be a big surprise.

ErinW1912 · May 2012

i understand-I had a girl post a comment on my facebook asking the day of the wedding. another girl that i knew in college posted on facebook asking me when the wedding was b/c she needed to put the time in and book hotel and flights-um your not invited? I just told them the date but said we were having a small wedding mainly just family.

bridezillatobe2009 · May 2012

I post a lot on facebook about the wedding, and our wedding is mostly family with a few select friends who have been around forever. I'm waiting for this to happen closer to the wedding though. They will look the fool and should be embarassed for assuming they were invited, and I will have no problem informing them of this.

DreamCLG7 · May 2012

Ugh, I hear ya. I invited on co-worker, because she has been a family friend for 20 years. She mentioned to me at work that she would be there, and another co-worker overheard asked what date the wedding was. I told her, and she marked it down on her calandar and said she would be there too! I'm flattered that she wants to attend so badly, but geez..

HollyRae28 · May 2012

Y'all make me feel WAY better! haha!

Personally... I would NEVER assume I was invited to someones wedding! Just flat out rude in my opinion!

But thank you!

vantica · May 2012

This is why I haven't been posting about it... I hate the awkward part. I have a friend who used to say to me, "when I get married you'll be a bridesmaid right?" And I said of course. She got married and didn't ask. It was a bit weird, but most of the time I'd rather just be a guest so that was ok. Lol. So this past year she's said to me several times, "I want to be a bridesmaid when you get married!" My reply was just, "No worries, I'll never get married." Now I'm engaged, and feel like I need to ask her. I'm not, but I feel guilty......but really, who asks?!? I think the people who will be put out by not getting an invite are family members that I haven't seen or talked to in years, and some of them are on fb. So I think I will either make a filter of people I am inviting so if I want to post anything only they will see it, or just not post anything, and try not to feel awkward when I post pictures after the fact.

QueerFemme · May 2012

Just to add one more weird piece to this thread...I met someone through a friend of a friend on Tuesday... and during the course of conversation, my friend brought up that I was getting married. Well, the friend of the friend sent me a friend request... and commented that she had already picked out her outfit for my wedding.

Um?????

HollyRae28 · May 2012

cmgilpin.... People are strange! You just met her?! Are you serious?! hmmm... I seriousluy don't get it. I would NEVER do that..... Maybe we are all the crazy ones for not being RUDE! hahah!

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