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Last night my brother called to tell me he broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years.  She was one of my bridesmaids.  I love my brother, I want him to be happy, and if he wasn't happy with this girl than I'm glad he ended it.  I don't have any problems having an uneven number of BM and GM so that's not an issued at all, but I do have a few logistical questions that I'm hoping someone can help me with.

I'm planning on having the GMs standing with my FI at the start of the ceremony and the BMs walking down the aisle alone, but how will it work after the wedding?  Can I have 2 GM walk the MOH back down the aisle or will that be wierd?

One of the GM (FI's brother) has a daughter who is our flower girl.  I was thinking the brother and his daughter could dance together during the wedding party dance?

My mom has already paid for the girlfriends BM dress in full.  It hasn't come in yet.  Does anyone have suggestions for what to do with the dress?  The store wont buy back the dress right?  

Is there anything else I'm not thinking about that I should plan for?  Does anyone have suggestions or things you've done when there was an uneven number?  Thanks so much!
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    mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    Did the girlfriend say that she was backing out? I'd imagine that she'd drop out on her own, but I'm wondering if she (or your brother) actually told you that this would be the case.

    Yes, two men can escort one woman.

    Just skip the bridal party dance entirely - it's boring for guests to watch and awkward for the bridal party to dance with a random partner.(Unless all of your bridal party couples are actual couples, is that the case?) If you really want to do this, invite them up to dance with their own dates.

    As far as the dress, I would just give things time to cool off and see what the girlfriend says. Hopefully she's got the good manners to reimburse your mother for the dress. If not, you can take the dress to the salon and explain the situation and see what they say (check your receipt/contract to see what their return policy is). If they won't take it back, see if you can sell it on eBay, Craigslist or the Knot/Nest classified boards. Or donate it to a charity that gives prom dresses to low-income girls, or something like that.
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    AmynutritionAmynutrition member
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    2 GM walk the MOH back down the aisle

    yes, your MOH will probably love it
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    Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Um, I would first check with her to see if she is backing out of the wedding.  If not then you cannot kick her out...that is a big no-no.

    If she has backed out then...
    Two guys can walk with one girl.  This is what I am doing and in fact since our sides are so uneven two guys will have to walk back together.

    I agree with PP to just skip the wedding party dance so there is no awkwardness.

    With the dress I would ask if she wants it and like PP said hopefully she will be nice enough to offer to pay for it.  And if she doesn't want it donate it or try and sell it.

    I hope everything works out for the best!

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    zitiqueenzitiqueen member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_lost-bm?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:7a7f12d5-0cac-4ffe-9937-081fa025004ePost:4a1d3bcc-6de8-4461-997d-fa69c5700a63">Lost a BM</a>:
    [QUOTE]Last night my brother called to tell me he broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years.  She was one of my bridesmaids.  I love my brother, I want him to be happy, and if he wasn't happy with this girl than I'm glad he ended it.  I don't have any problems having an uneven number of BM and GM so that's not an issued at all, but I do have a few logistical questions that I'm hoping someone can help me with. I'm planning on having the GMs standing with my FI at the start of the ceremony and the BMs walking down the aisle alone, but how will it work after the wedding?  Can I have 2 GM walk the MOH back down the aisle or will that be wierd? One of the GM (FI's brother) has a daughter who is our flower girl.  I was thinking the brother and his daughter could dance together during the wedding party dance? My mom has already paid for the girlfriends BM dress in full.  It hasn't come in yet.  Does anyone have suggestions for what to do with the dress?  The store wont buy back the dress right?   Is there anything else I'm not thinking about that I should plan for?  Does anyone have suggestions or things you've done when there was an uneven number?  Thanks so much!
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    bstentbstent member
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    I think two groomsmen walking down with the MOH is fine. And if you want to do the wedding party dance I think it would be so cute to have the flower girl dance with her daddy
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    shopgrl3177shopgrl3177
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    Thanks everyone!  The ex-girlfriend has backed out.  She lives about 18 hours away and the only people she would know would be my parents, so it would be too uncomfortable for her to come.  Have a great weekend!
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