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Novice Catholic question #532.....

Themis278Themis278
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I am not Catholic, and FI, to my understanding that means we can have the Marriage ceremony outside of mass, correct?

That means that their are not gifts to be brought to the alter, and we only need to ask 2 people to do readings, and 3rd to ask for prayers?

Also, FI's family is very invovled in the church and it JUST occured to me that we should probably invite the Monsenior/Priest to the wedding preforming the service to the wedding, correct?

Yup, I'm a little frazzled and clueless today. But on a side note thanks for the help yesterday, not only did we pick everything out but FI was really excited that I figure out all of that
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Re: Novice Catholic question #532.....

  • mica178mica178 member
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    edited December 2011
    You'll need to talk with the priest about details.  Since you're not Catholic, the archdiocese will have to approve the "mixed religion marriage."  And you'll need to go through the marriage prep before the wedding.

    If you know someone who's a good singer, you can have a Cantor in addition to the readers and the intercessions person.

    Yes, you shoudl invite the presider to the reception, especially since he has a realtionship with your FI's family.
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  • Themis278Themis278
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you, marriage prep is done and we've been approved. Its a little difficult for me to follow sometimes because sometimes the Priest forgets a lot of things and will tell me we are having an out of mass wedding and then will ask about communion in the next breath, and then makes a remark about it being a Christian but not Catholic. (all over the phone which doesn't help, I have not met him yet) My understanding is that since I'm not Catholic, communion is not an option.

    I guess I should say I believe we are having a out of mass marriage but our Priest getts a little confused sometimes I'm just trying to make sure I have it straight in my head what is going on so if he gets a little confused from time to time it doesn't confuse me.
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  • mica178mica178 member
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    edited December 2011
    My priest does the same thing.  He's so busy sometimes I think things slip his mind.  Is there a more organized music director or coordinator at your church who can help you with the more practical things?  My music coordinator/organist helps to keep the pastor on track with my wedding stuff.
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  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
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    edited December 2011
    you CAN have Mass if only one of you is Catholic.  Some priest will do it, some wont.  But you would not be able to receive.  If you dont have Mass, then no, you wouldnt need any gift bearers.

    the priest (or officiant for any type of wedding) should receive an invitation to the Wedding, and he also should be invited to the rehearsal dinner.
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  • mica178mica178 member
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    edited December 2011
    That is true.  My FI is not Catholic, but we were still offered a full Mass, and the priest even offered to see if he could get a communion dispensation for my FI, since my FI has expressed interest in converting.
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  • agapecarrieagapecarrie member
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    edited December 2011
    You can only have a mass if the non-Catholic is baptized. If the non-Catholic is not baptized, a mass is not an option.
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  • agapecarrieagapecarrie member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_novice-catholic-question-532?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:721405fc-cfc9-4aff-84d9-229fb91db6cePost:b38a780d-c729-4681-8629-5269a268d07e">Re: Novice Catholic question #532.....</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Novice Catholic question #532..... : I disagree. You can have a full mass if one of you is Catholic.  But the non-catholic one cannot receive communion.  My FI's sisters -- one's husband is Mormon, the other was Jewish --- both had full mass catholic weddings.  Their husbands just didn't receive communion. There still is a communion for all the Catholic participants.
    Posted by xoxosbt[/QUOTE]

    Unless the mass was done by a Bishop, or with special permission, this was an abuse and against the rubrics. In most cases, a Mass is not allowed at all if the non-Catholic isn't baptized. You can read this in the Rite of marriage book.
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