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June 2013 Weddings

Rehearsal dinner issues

Fi's mom offered to host our rehearsal dinner.
She said invite who we have to.

Would you include the plus ones of your bridal party? Grandparents...out of staters??

Every rehearsal dinner I went to was because I was a plus one of FI-

That would mean close to 30 people- that seems awfully high for rehearsal. Undecided

We have, time dont get me wrong,  just trying to plan ahead.
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Re: Rehearsal dinner issues

  • I have lurked on the rehearsal dinner posts on the E board before, and I think the general rule is to invite the wedding party and the immediate family, and to make sure everyone's SOs are invited. I think the main idea is if someone is truly single they don't need a plus one for the rehearsal dinner, but if they are married/in a relationship/dating then you have to invite the partner. With grandparents I'm not sure, I think we plan on inviting our grandmothers (the grandfathers on both my side and FI's side have passed away), but I believe they are considered to be extended family (again not sure though).
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  • None of my grandparents are still alive so it would just be his grandmother on his moms side and grandparents on his dads....All 3 are coming out of state so most likely we would invite them.
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  • SB1512SB1512 member
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    Make sure to invite SO's of anyone invited to the RD.  If you have any single WP members or immediete family and they are bringing a friend or date to the wedding, it would be nice if you offer for their +1 to also attend the RD (this way the +1 can meet people so they know someone other than their date at the wedding).  Unless your grandparents are participants in the wedding itself (or out of town), you don't necessarily have to invite them.  I think OOT guests can be a little tricky.  Are they staying at a hotel, or with family?  Are they familiar with the area of the wedding?  If you can afford to host them at the RD great, but if the budget does not allow for it then at least make sure they are provided with information about places to eat and things to do.
  • Definetly significant others, like all PP's said. And I would say OOT family should be invited as well. OOT friends maybe, but I could see leaving them out for cost reasons. But if you have an uncle, grandparent, etc from OOT that will be there when you have the rehersal dinner, I definetly think you should invite them.

    Talk to FI mom and see where she stands on this, she might be fine with it all.
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  • cnf2013cnf2013 member
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    OOT guest for us are absolutely not an option. 100% of our 130 person guest list is OOT and if they were all invited it would be like catering two wedding dinners. Ours is going to be parents and wedding party plus their SO's. Not sure about my brother (FI is an only child) or grandparents. I have four sets and FI has none and his parents are hosting so it's their call. 
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  • Definitely yes on SOs of the BP. I do not plan on inviting my grandparents to the RD, they really arent involved with the wedding, but if yours are doing a reading or something like that, then they probably should be invited. We are inviting our OOT guests, we dont have a ton of them, maybe like 10 people total, they arent from around here and would have nothing else to do.
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  • We'll be inviting SO's of the BP, but not OOT guests, as at least 50% of our guest list is from OOT.  I think that puts the list for the RD at 15 ish.
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