Cold Feet Already?

jensmithuwyo · August 2012

As our two-month mark hit, I've noticed myself becoming MUCH less excited for the big day, and even feel depressed. Wondering if this is normal? Anyone else feel this way?

minionlover · August 2012

What are you getting depressed about? Is it the details of the wedding or are you having feelings that you aren't marrying the right person?

achiduck · August 2012

Have you thought about why you're feeling this way? Is ther anything else in you life that's stressfull going on right now? Is your FI doing anything that's rubbing you the wrong way?

It could just be planning burn out. Maybe take a week or two and don't do anything wedding related and see how you feel then.

KittennDave · August 2012

Awh, I'm sorry to hear that! Is it possible that it's just the stress of getting closer to the day? I know I've been feeling a little down about some things not going well with the process, but the day itself I'm still looking forward to. (And the honeymoon to follow!)

kd1986 · August 2012

I definitely wouldn't call the way I feel as having cold feet, BUT I do have the feeling that I'm just ready for the wedding to be over! All this planning and saving and coordinating has made me ready to just get married and move on!

goatlady12 · August 2012

My wallet is feeling pretty depressed at this point!

fishinflagrl · August 2012

Hello to a fellow SoFlo bride. I dont think I have cold feet but very nervous and anxious about standing in front of a bunch of family and kissing my fiance. We are very respectful with family and friends, even, about not kissing and all that crazy PDA. So..we are both very shy/nervous about that. We also dont like center of attention, so that is also difficult for us to think about.
What are you questioning? Why the cold feet, eleborate... I am sorry to hear this...but maybe it is similar to mine and not cold feet of your marriage to FI.

jessiflower · August 2012

we all handle stress in different ways...some people eat, some people dont eat (I fall into the eating one)...some people become depressed or want to push away the big event that all the stress is related to....I know that I have felt like this with Christmas....sounds kinda corny, I know, but I relate the wedding planning to Christmas....all this planning and spending money and getting ready for everything on this one day....as it gets closer and you continue to realize all the things you have to do, it can get overwhelming and you just want to shut down....
I totally get it...I'm not depressed so to speak, but I'm feeling overwhelmed to the point of being withdrawn from everyone....I don't think its cold feet....I know its not for me personally, but I do understand the change in mood and excitement as it gets closer...I have a feeling that the excitment will come back as the day gets a little closer....I feel like this is just in the cycle of emotions in the planning stages where there are still so many things to do....hope this helps.

aimee58 · August 2012

Like the PP said, is it the wedding or the marriage that you're stressed over? I am definitely ready for the day to be done and over. But that's just planning burn-out. I can't wait to be married to my FI.

I think you should just dig deep about your concerns. If it's planning, take a break. I"m on "wedding day off" today b/c I was getting overwhelmed. I think we all need that sometimes!

AllieHysh19 · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_cold-feet-already?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:6d29655b-a6b3-4629-88b6-cdf172280477Post:6a5c23c0-1ba4-4075-abea-0ea9605432c8">Re: Cold Feet Already?</a>:
[QUOTE]I definitely wouldn't call the way I feel as having cold feet, <strong>BUT I do have the feeling that I'm just ready for the wedding to be over! </strong> All this planning and saving and coordinating has made me ready to just get married and move on!
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</div><div>I know what you mean! I'm at the point right now, where I just want to run away to mexico and never come back. My FMIL is driving me crazy and taking over the shower guest list (god forbid someone get left out and then get mad at her.... btw - its not at 80 people invited...) and I'm just over trying to make everything perfect and everyone happy. </div><div>
</div><div>IMO, its totally normal to be this close and ready for it to just be here so it can be over. Its a stressful time in our lives - whether it feels "stressful" or not... </div><div>
</div><div>Here's to hoping that feeling goes away for both of us.... </div>

marisolgarcia1 · August 2012

I have my days where I feel I am so over it! I have a million things to do and don't have enough to spread myself so thin! I am exhasted when I think of wedding. As I get closer a little over 2 months now to go.

I too am ready to be done with it. But then I get excited over the smallest details or things that make me so excited about the big day! I can't wait to walk down the isle with the love of my life.

Heath66 · August 2012

I don't have cold feet regarding FI, but I have cold feet regarding his family. I can't wait to be married to him but I do NOT want to be a member of their family. They have caused so much stress and drama. I can't wait until we move down south to get away from it all.

jensmithuwyo · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_cold-feet-already?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:6d29655b-a6b3-4629-88b6-cdf172280477Post:af930719-59c1-4afd-a844-a3571b2895bb">Re: Cold Feet Already?</a>:
[QUOTE]we all handle stress in different ways...some people eat, some people dont eat (I fall into the eating one)...some people become depressed or want to push away the big event that all the stress is related to....I know that I have felt like this with Christmas....sounds kinda corny, I know, but I relate the wedding planning to Christmas....all this planning and spending money and getting ready for everything on this one day....as it gets closer and you continue to realize all the things you have to do, it can get overwhelming and you just want to shut down.... I totally get it...I'm not depressed so to speak, but I'm feeling overwhelmed to the point of being withdrawn from everyone....I don't think its cold feet....I know its not for me personally, but I do understand the change in mood and excitement as it gets closer...I have a feeling that the excitment will come back as the day gets a little closer....I feel like this is just in the cycle of emotions in the planning stages where there are still so many things to do....hope this helps.
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</div><div>I think maybe this is exactly what's happening. At least I hope! It doesn't help, though, that he wouldn't do pre-marital counseling with me, which I think really would have calmed my nerves. I'm ridiculously nervous about our different opinion on finances and a few other differences of opinion. AAAAaaa Lord, help me through these silly emotions! I just want to be completely happy and excited again! Now I understand why people elope. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-foot-in-mouth.gif" border="0" alt="Foot in mouth" title="Foot in mouth" />

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