My Fiance and I have decided to throw ourselves a very low key engagement party. His father is dying and most likely won't make it until Christmas, let alone or wedding next fall. We thought this would be a great chance for him to celebrate with us and his family and (hopefully) give his mom a day off from worrying about her husband.
That being said, is it too low key to do a pot luck bbq? We are thinking just close family (His dad is one of 19!!) and our bridal parties. Or should I just ask our immediate family to help out? These are not people that would be offended by our asking and would probably be more hurt to be told NOT to help! However, I am hesitant to ask outside of our parent and brothers and sisters for contributions because we are inviting these people to celebrate with us!
What are your thoughts?