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E curious

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There was a post on E today that surprised me a bit..I've lurked over there for a pretty long time and occassionally post and this hadn't come up yet.

Apparently it's a big no-no to have a tip jar on the bar?

I've seen this at EVERY wedding I've been to. I asked FI, and it's the same for him. Am I in the minority here? Or is this a regional thing? Or do I just have really "tacky" friends/family? lol

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June 16, 2012
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  • LOTON01LOTON01
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    I have seen tip jars at all the weddings I have been to also. I hadn't really thought about it for us yet. However, I didn't feel it was tacky.
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  • Allycat11Allycat11
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    I have only been to one wedding that had a tip jar on the bar.  We paid gratuity up front and no tip jars were out at our wedding.  If people felt like tipping the bartenders, they did....like our drunk BM giving the bartender a $20. 
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  • emarston1emarston1 member
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    edited January 2012
    I stated in that thread that I don't like them because they make me feel uncomfortable, especially now that I've planned my own wedding.  Because if there is an open bar, I'm 99% certain that the B&G are already going to paying a gratuity but I feel like an ass if I don't leave them something.

    We had a mandatory 18% tip that also went to the bartenders so I didn't want my guests to feel like they had to shell out money to tip when we had it covered.  I specifically told our venue coordinator that I didn't want to see one out and they respected that wish.

    ETA:  I would never judge the bride and groom for having the tip jar out because I don't think they made the decision to do it.  But I side eye the bartenders for trying to double dip on their tips for the night.
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  • zulamayzulamay
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    We did not have a tip jar....we paid gratituty in the cost of the bar and did not ask guests to tip further.
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  • mcmeghan311mcmeghan311 member
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    We have to hire our own bartenders and catering because we're not using a hall.  I got a quote from a service that was $2/hr more if I wanted to skip a tip jar.  $2/hr is obsurd, I'd wind up giving them extra anyway.  I've ALWAYS seen a tip jar out at every single wedding I've ever been to.  Every.single.one.

    I think most guests would probably assume they were supposed to tip anyway and would try to.  It's our booze we're buying and we're paying them hourly, so I would be a little worried that if there wasn't a tip jar, I would get crappier service because they are getting a set tip amount no matter what.  Idk, I didn't know it was considered tacky.  I guess maybe it just depends on your crowd.
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