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catwinecatwine member
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I got my grandma's RSVP card yesterday and she declined to come to my wedding!  who does that?!  I'm the first grandchild to get married and will actually be the only person on that whole side of the family who is married (everyone else is divorced). 

i shouldn't be surprised becuase i kind of figured she wouldn't show up...we used to be close when i was little but kind of drifted apart as the years went on.  one of my cousins has a bunch of kids that my grandma decided to look after (she thinks my cousin is an unfit mother...long story!!) and she often uses them as an excuse not to do things.  but i'm still offended and hurt that she wouldn't come to my wedding.  i don't even know if she will be at the ceremony. 
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  • halij52002halij52002
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    Wow, that's horrible. I know my great grandmother wouldn't be able to come because she is really old and can't be out for long. Maybe call her and express to her how you feel.
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  • tamrahelmertamrahelmer
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    I am afraid that the exact same thing is going to happen with my grandmother. She lives an hour and a half away, and told my hostesses of my shower she doesnt drive this far anymore. I am afraid that this will be the same reasoning with the wedding and she will decline.

    I think its just hard to take when they are family members whether you are close or not. Sorry you have to go through this!

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  • achiduckachiduck member
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    That's a definite bummer.
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  • catwinecatwine member
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    i'm too much of a sissy to call her...she doesn't live far away so i'm not even sure why she won't come.

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  • sedonigersedoniger
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    I am so sorry.  I can't even imagine.
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  • fishinflagrlfishinflagrl
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    Oh my goodness! I would be heartbroken too. I dont know if she is your mom's mom or dad's mom, maybe ask if they could call your grandmother/their mom to see if maybe there is an issue or she may need a ride to your wedding. So sorry girly. :(
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    That is hard. It would be nice if she could have called you instead of letting you find out through the mail. We just found out that FIs grandma is unable to make the drive to the wedding and I feel guilty that we planned it 3 hours way from FIs hometown where she lives. It's in the town we currently live. She is FIs only living grandparent. I'm also worried my grandma won't be able to travel the hour from where she lives because she is currently undergoing tests for pancreatic cancer. Her husband, my grandpa, passed away in June. I think my maternal grandparents will be the only grandparents to attend. Family is FI and my top priority so it's definitely disappointing but I understand their health and travel concerns.
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  • ericaandtom2012ericaandtom2012 member
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    That's such a bummer.  I know how you feel; my grandmother is not going to be able to make the trip (doesn't like planes, doesn't drive, and it's too long of a train ride with her back problems) and I'm terribly disappointed (but trying not to make her feel worse about it because I know she wants to attend).  I hope you figure out why she isn't planning to attend.
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  • LDubHawksFanLDubHawksFan member
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    I'm sorry!  It's a bummer.

    I knew my great grandma wouldn't be able to come, but I cried all day when I found out my gpa decided not to come with my gma (it's out of state so they've all made arrangements).  I'm the first grandchild too.....I'm still disappointed, but I'm still going to be surrounded by a lot of family and friends.

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  • aimee58aimee58 member
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    That's really too bad! Maybe your parents can call her and see if they can find out why she declined. She might just not have a ride and doesn't want to inconvience anyone...
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  • mrshall1027mrshall1027
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    Sorry you are going through all of this.  I know how you feel though.  I'm pretty sure my grandma won't be able to come because she cares for my great grandma, who is 100, and is too weak to travel.

    Hopefully you can get an answer as to why she isn't coming.  Best of luck!
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  • snuff9861snuff9861 member
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    Bummer. I know how you feel. My dad's parents also declined but due to my grandfather's health. THey are across the country and unable to travel. I am upset but I knew they wouldn't be able to come, even though I am closest with that side of the family.
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  • catwinecatwine member
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    thanks ladies...i'm sad for all of you who are going through this too.
    i'm fortunate enough that all 4 of my grandparents are still alive so i was hoping they could all come.  but my mom's parents might not be able to either becuase they live OOT adn don't drive.  my grandpa is in a wheelchair so someone would have to loook after him if they could get a ride...argH!
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  • NRod70NRod70
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    That would make me sad also.  I, unfortunatley, don't have any living granparents. 

    My mother is 85 and a royal pain in the @ss (I'm 40 and the youngest of 4).  She actually made a comment to both of my sisters that she may not even attend.  And that is because she will not be the center of attention...I kid you not.  Oh and did I mention that FI and I moved in with her last year to take care of her after an illness? 

    Sorry, I kinda went on a tangent there for a sec...I guess I had to get that off my chest!

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