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Overwhelmed.

RebeccaJacRebeccaJac
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So we're hitting the point in planning when it's just getting to be a lot. Vendors need contracts, things need to be decided, and it's just a lot. We're planning a Colorado wedding from Minneapolis so that's adding a lot. We both work and are in grad school full time so aside from the sacred Thursday night date we hardly ever have more than an hour together. 

Both sides of our families are wanting things to be a little more over the top than we planned. Thus far, they're finacialy willing to help out with their own ideas, but the extra work involved is getting to be a lot. 

Did anyone else go through this? When does it get better?! Augh. 
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  • AllyG303AllyG303 member
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    edited December 2011
    It gets better once the big things are booked (venue, photographer, DJ, ceremony music, food, flowers). 

    We're also planning a wedding from a different state and it's definitely frustrating when you can't meet with vendors on any given weekend.  I suggest one giant wedding planning weekend trip if you can afford it, so that you can get it all finished.  The details are easier to work out once the big stuff is done. 

    If your family wants bigger and better, put them in charge of those details.
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  • yodacubyodacub member
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    edited December 2011
    My general policy is to lump as many things together as possible (for instance, our reception is at a restaurant, so location, food, linens, decorations are all together).  This has kept me sane, and I can focus on grad school instead of wedding all the time.  It does get much better once the big things are booked, I'm in somewhat of a lull right now.
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  • sprtychick10sprtychick10
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    edited December 2011
    I agree, once the big things are booked, the stress does ease up some. I like the suggestion of doing one big wedding planning weekend. Do you have family members who live where you are getting married who can help with the research?

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  • sessionsweddingsessionswedding member
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    edited December 2011
    Hire a coordinator.  I basically have FMIL as a coordinator, and my DJ is providing me with a DOC.  For the most part, I did research on what I wanted for flowers, food, music, timelines, etc. and found as many pictures, samples, examples, etc. as I could.  Then I sent that stuff to the appropriate people.

    I sent flower, food, decoration, room layout, and even favors requests to FMIL, and she handled it.  She also (as the MOG) took care of the RD.  All I have to do for that is show up.

    The DJ is handling all sound and lighting with his own self-contained system, so I didn't need to bother with finding out what we needed to do to use the church's sound system and lights, what their systems could handle, etc.

    I sent a day-of timeline and other information to the DOC, and she will handle it.  She will make sure everyone lines up properly for the processional, she will gather up people for pictures, she will make sure that the timeline for the reception is followed (like coming to grab me when it's time for the bouquet toss), etc.
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  • faith415faith415 member
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    edited December 2011
    FI and I started the big stuff right when we got engaged and finalized detials during Christmas break. We figured if we could get the big stuff out of the way during breaks we would be able to not be stressed during classes. After all the big things were taken care of, we really did seem to have a nice lull right until about 2 1/2 months out.

    The best thing I ever did was give people certain things to be in charge of and a general idea of what I wanted. For example, my dad got information on a bunch of different caterers in the area and then let me decide which one I liked best. Then one weekend I was home I met with him to pick the menu.

    FI and I have dealt with the same things with our families. They both want additional things and are willing to pay for them, which makes it almost impossible to say no. If we don't mind having the thing they suggest, we basically are putting them in charge of doing it. I don't mind them adding things that would be special to them as long as I don't have to spend time on them.

    You should be able to relax for a little while after all your big things get finalized!! Little things keep coming out of the woodwork now that we're getting closer, but I keep telling myself that since all the big things are done if we don't get to any of the little details that are left we'll still be just fine!
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  • ochemjennochemjenn member
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    We went through the same thing.  If a family memebr wanted some "better" than we were planning on, they had to figure out those details.  My mom wanted real plates, so I had her figure out what company we should use to rent them, how many to get, etc.  MIL wanted wine, so she had to decide on flavors (are they called flavors?  I don't know.).  Dad wanted beer, so he bought it and arranged to have it taken to the reception.  Delegate!
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