TMI Tuesday?

Steph0871 · September 2010

We've been a little slow over here, girls. Step it up, for real.

To get the conversation started:

1. How old were you for your first kiss?

2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time?

3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools?

4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you?

Feel free to add in your own

KateJ10 · September 2010

1. How old were you for your first kiss? I think 4th grade- so...11? I think

2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time? I was 15 with my high school boyfriend- but just about 16! (Or at least that's what I tell people to make myself feel better haha)

3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools? Ours was in 5th and 6th grade, but it seems like kids are starting younger and younger these days, so I would vote starting in 3rd or 4th grade

4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you? I am not sure when I will talk to them about it- my parents didn't talk to me about it at all!

shan87 · September 2010

Love this idea Steph! I agree we have been slow!

1. How old were you for your first kiss? 8th Grade

2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time? 17 w/ my Soon to Be Hubby. We have taken a couple breaks but we were each of ours first. Which I love.

3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools? I dunno I think 5th grade is fine. I think they should talk about puberty earlier though

4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you? I think around 7th-8th grade. I dunno though because I never had the 'talk'

Enchanted616 · September 2010

1. How old were you for your first kiss?
Maybe around ten? My best friends older brother, who I thought was so cute.. and now, looking back, ewww.

2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time?
Seventeen? I barely remember, hah, and its supposed to be such a memorable thing. It kinda sucked.

3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools?
I have no idea. Mine was in fifth grade, when we talked about periods, I told my teacher I already had mine and asked a question about it, and she told me I was lying. I wasnt lying.

4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you?
My parents didn't. My older cousin who lived with us told me when I was around 8, and I thought she was lying, so one day in the car I was like "mommy, is sex when a boy puts his boy parts INSIDE my girl parts?" and there was like this really long pause.. and then she said yes.. another pause.. "do you have any questions?" and I was like "nope!" End of story.

shan87 · September 2010

Enchanted I love you Birds and the Bees story!!

tpender13 · September 2010

To get the conversation started:

1. How old were you for your first kiss?

12. It was playing spin-the-bottle and hide-and-seek-and-kiss at a birthday party.

2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time?

18. I'd been dating a (much) older guy for almost a year, it was my first serious relationship. We might have done it earlier but I didn't want to get him in trouble.

3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools?

3rd or 4th grade, maybe.

4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you?
Oh gosh, I don't know. I never got the talk. I remember a girl on the school bus telling a dirty joke, and she had to explain to me that girls have three holes.

SSaltzman87 · September 2010

1. How old were you for your first kiss? 12

2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time? 17

3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools? 4th grade seems to be a good starting point :-)

4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you? I'd say middle school, my parents never really gave me 'the talk', in my school our sex ed classes were SO comprehensive I knew more than I really wanted to :-P

debbieupper · September 2010

We've been a little slow over here, girls. Step it up, for real.

To get the conversation started:
1. How old were you for your first kiss? 12. I was at a co-ed birthday party, which was a big deal in itself. We played spin-the-bottle and kissing freeze-tag. He tasted like Cool Ranch doritos. HOT.
2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time? 20! Late bloomer, I guess? But beginning at 17, my HS bf and I did everything else, haha.
3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools? I really don't know. Probably 3rd or 4th grade. For sure the puberty ed should start that early, as some girls are already going through it by then (my mom was 9 when she got her period!)
4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you? I was 6 when. My mom's a nurse, so she's not real closed-book about that stuff. I remember my mom drawing a very simple diagram and I was all, "wait, what? There are THREE?!?" I'm pretty open so I'll probably not keep it from my kids when they ask someday.

beka0404 · September 2010

1. How old were you for your first kiss? Sixth grade, on the playground. I chased him down. This became a recurring theme in future romantic endeavors.

2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time? I'm sorry, but this one won't be revealed. Someone from my church reads these boards! Suffice to say, it was too early, it was disappointing, and then I waited a long time to try again.

3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools? Puberty seems to be starting earlier - like Enchanted, I had my period by the time I was in 5th grade, but that seems to be almost normal nowadays. I think the puberty stuff should start in 3rd or 4th grade, and that full sex-ed should be taught by 7th grade. I think at my high school in the late 90s, we didn't learn about sex, STDs, pregnancy, etc. until 10th grade. That's way too late.

4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you? I'm probably going to follow the lead of my sister, who has waited until she started seeing changes in her daughter. Or answer questions as they arise. But by the time they hit junior high, I will explain all of it. I don't remember my parents sitting me down for a face-to-face talk, but my mom gave me a book called "Where Did I Come From?". Later, once I was in high school, she gave me a copy of "Our Bodies, Our Selves" which we talked about. She's a nurse and is very clinical but I could tell she was beyond embarrassed.

Side note: Holy mother of silent parents, Batman. My kids are getting the talk, along with a discussion of birth control methods once they're teenagers. I don't trust a teacher who may/may not believe in abstinence-only education to teach my children.

SSaltzman87 · September 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_minnesota-minneapolis-st-paul_tmi-tuesday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:81Discussion:69610704-ead7-407b-ad57-bbc356da6321Post:242b6edf-d7c9-41c7-b164-b01da232dc42">Re: TMI Tuesday?</a>:
[QUOTE]Side note: Holy mother of silent parents, Batman. My kids are getting the talk, along with a discussion of birth control methods once they're teenagers. I don't trust a teacher who may/may not believe in abstinence-only education to teach my children.
Posted by beka0404[/QUOTE]

I don't agree with abstinence-only education either. Nothing makes a kid wanna do something than someone telling them they shouldn't :-)

Steph0871 · September 2010

1. How old were you for your first kiss? first real kiss was 14

2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time? 17

3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools?Honestly, I think some talks should start as young as kindergarten (just basics like this is my body; no one else can touch it.) We had 'real' sex ed in 7th grade and honestly? It was too late. Especially since kids are hitting puberty so much earlier nowadays.

4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you? I got the FULL talk at 6 years old. My mom was pregnant with my sister, and I was a very inquisitive kid. I think they realized they might as well just tell me everything up front so I'd stop asking questions
I think, for me, it was an appropriate age. I will never lie to my children about it; so I'll for sure explain as they ask questions.

I Want Cake · September 2010

1. How old were you for your first kiss? I was in 8th grade, or so, and I choose not to remember it.

2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time? 19

3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools? 6th

4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you? I'll probably wait until they're old enough for the information to matter to them and not embarass them, maybe sometime in early high school. My parents never explained it to me or my brothers, and we've done just fine.

ogrady88 · September 2010

1. How old were you for your first kiss? 13, 9th grade

2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time? 17, shortly after HS graduation

3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools? 6th/7th grade

4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you? I think the conversations will probably start fairly early. I don't really remember having "the talk" with my mom.

drdifabio · September 2010

1. How old were you for your first kiss?

16

2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time?

19

3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools?

I think it should start in 5th and build out from there. I would think you would get more in depth the older you get.

4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you?
I dont think my parent every did explain it all to me - at least not that I can remember. I do remember them telling me that it should only be done when you are in a loving committed relationship that meant marriage. I dont think they actually believe the marriage part of it as I know that they did it before marriage but that is likely what I am going to teach my kids too. I would say right around 5th or 6th grade.

SuperRNluvsChef · September 2010

1. How old were you for your first kiss?
Hmmm...I think I win for oldest so far, I was weeks away from 20 when this happened. My FI is the only guy I've ever kissed *giggles*

2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time?
20, with my soon to be husband

3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools?
Um, I had mine in 5th grade but my lil brother is currently in 4th and I'm scared to find out what he may know from his friends/friend's siblings. He's pretty sheltered at home though. I actually can't believe he'll have sex ed next year! He's still my baby brother!

4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you?
Oh gosh I don't know. I don't want to give some stupid version to my kids but also don't want to spoil their innocence LOL. So I really don't know, but if they have questions I'll answer as honestly as I can (depending on their age)

lboerner88 · September 2010

1. How old were you for your first kiss?15 at the Sadie Hawkins dance lol
2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time?18 - with my soon-to-be-hubby

3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools?I think that 3rd or 4th grade is a good time to start. I got my period by 5th grade and our school started teaching in 3rd grade. It seemed to work out for us lol
4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you?I think that we will wait and see when they start asking or when we feel that we need to address the subject. Can't really say when we don't know our kids yet! My parents never directly had the talk with me until I had my first boyfriend in high school. Then basically my dad told me boys were icky and all that they wanted was sex and that I should stay away from them! lol it was a good talk : /

maybe984 · September 2010

1. How old were you for your first kiss?15. I was sitting outside waiting for my Dad to pick me up from school, and my then-boyfriend Adam finally made his move. I recall it being incredibly gross. His skin was too oily, and his lips were really chapped. We broke up like a week later.

2. How old were you when you had sex for the first time?19, with my now-FI. I was in my second year of college. However, a big chunk of my high school was convinced that I was a huge slut my junior and senior year. Apparently one of my exes liked to tell epic stories about our love life... many of which were completely untrue.

3. What grade do you think sex ed should start in schools?I think they should teach it more slowly and gradually, starting in 3rd grade. I remember every time we had sex-ed (5th, 7th, and 9th grade for me), it pre-empted most of our other classes for a week. I think that just serves to terrify kids. I think they could find better ways to integrate it into the learning plans.

4. If you have kids, when will you give them the birds and bees talk? How old were you when your parents explained it all to you?
Whenever it seems like they really want to or need to know. I think it varies per kid. I personally don't think I got many direct talks from my parents. I was the youngest of three girls, so I just kind of picked up on it from them. Plus, I was always like 4 years ahead in my reading level, so I remember grabbing "Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret" off of my sister's bookshelf and reading it when I was like 7 or 8... so I got a head start on the puberty knowledge. I do think it's important for parents to directly talk about it with their kids, though, to de-stigmatize the subject. Even though I knew all about puberty, I still tried to hide my period from my mom for like 6 months when I started at 11. I was so afraid that she would be freaked out by her youngest starting puberty--- little did I realize it was much less of a life-changing moment for her than it was for me.

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