Hey all-
Some thoughts on this?
Mom is super shy around people she doesn't know well. She doesn't do anything socially without Dad, unless it involves her family or close circle of friends. That's just Mom.
FMIL plans to throw a shower. I've heard that it's polite to invite the MOB to this (but, if bride's family is also doing a shower- which I'm pretty sure is happening as 1) the families are a few hours away from each other and 2) my aunt just wants to- extended family ok not to invite...my extended wouldn't be feeling it anyway due to the travel, and already having done one shower, and now BOTH families are getting invited to 2 showers, and just, no. It would only be Mom).
Mom likes any opportunity to see me because it's far and few between that I do. I think she'd like going. BUT, likely not on her own, even though I'm there, as she's only met the crowd once. She just feels funny without Dad in unfamiliar environments.
I'm sure FMIL doesn't plan on it being coed, and I know FI's male family members so would not want to be there anyway- it's just not their thing.
Would it be weird for Mom to bring Dad to the shower anyway? Does she have to ask first? I feel like she wouldn't even want to ask "permission" from FMIL, so to speak- she'd basically just want to be like, "Oh and H is coming too" so there's no room for refusal (because she would want to go but on her terms). It's untraditional, but it doesn't bother me, and I guess given I understand her I'm reluctant to dissuade her. But that doesn't mean the other ladies will get it. Him, he's kinda folksy, amiable, gets along with everyone, so it wouldn't be awkward for HIM, but...
Just curious if as a female guest you would find it awkward for any reason? Especially if you're kinda old school?
Thanks!