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Family Frustration....GRR!

So I am super irritated with some of my extended family members. I'm vegan, FI is pescatarian (eats fish, no chicken/red meat). My family is Irish Catholic so meat and potatoes is pretty much the staple.

For our wedding we are having an all vegan/vegetarian menu. We are having a cheese display, veggies, bruschetta, spanakopita, etc. for apps. For dinner I sent around an extensive menu list our venue suggested for us. This included vegetable lasagna, stuffed manicotti, butternut squash ravioli, falafel napoleon, etc. 

Well, today in response to my sending out the menu suggestions to ask for people's thoughts on what they thought sounded good, I get a response back from my cousin saying :

Kelly,
Don't worry about us because we are going to grab dinner in between the wedding and reception. 

I am totally irritated and insulted that they would say that. I'm not asking them to eat dirt. This is a 4 star executive chef for crying out loud that does all of Gordon Gee's catering. And, it's not like I'm asking them to eat tofu either. 

Insted of being a brat like I wanted to be and saying "First, that's incredibly rude that you can't be bothered to be there for the whole day and Second, I'm not asking you to eat dirt" I ended up responding politely and thanking her for letting me know and that the cocktail hour/dinner follow immediately after the ceremony which should end at 4pm and that we won't count on them for cocktail/dinner, and that the reception starts at 7pm. 

I'm just really insulted they can't suck it up for one day and eat something that doesn't have meat in it. For the last 10 years I have been more than happy to make my own accommodations for weddings, barbeques, Thanksgiving, etc. and never said I would go eat elsewhere. I just can't get over how rude it is! 

I am trying to focus on the fact that there are now 4-6 people coming that I won't have to pay for cocktail hour and dinner and try to see the positive. I honestly could care less at this point if they even bothered coming.

Grrr! 
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Re: Family Frustration....GRR!

  • jenz5729jenz5729 member
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    edited December 2011
    I feel your frustration!!! Just keep breathing.. in the end its your day, so enjoy your veggie lasagna and forget the rest... and like you said, its 4 people you don't have to wine and dine! :)
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  • edited December 2011
    Wow, Kelly, I can totally understand your frustrating.  Good job keeping your cool in your response. I'm very much a meat and potatoes girl, but I think your options sound yummy! Just remember, they're the inconsiderate ones, not you, especially since you've been making your own accomodations for so long.  I sometimes think people don't understand how rude they are being.
  • edited December 2011
    That sounds awful! I say pick the menu that makes you happy! 
  • csh96csh96 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm so sorry to hear that.  The food you are offering sounds great to me and I eat meat!  I would let it go.  If they don't want your delicious food, then too bad. 

    On a lighter note, I really wish I would have included an option on my response card that said "___ I'll eat dinner before I come".    I would have saved tons!  :)
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  • edited December 2011
    That's a bummer!  It's rude of them but hey, that's less mouths you have to feed.  And they must be crazy because no joke, my mouth literally watered when I read about the stuffed manicotti and I'm most definitely a meat and potatoes girl.  Your menu sounds amazing so it's seriously their loss.
  • edited December 2011
    Wow I am proud that you held your cool, because I would have probably went crazy. That is totally rude and I am sorry you had to deal with that. But there is the bright side you are saving money and they are missing out on an amazing dinner, and time with you. 
  • edited December 2011
    wow, that is incredibly rude of your guests. i'm shocked! if they want to grab a burger before your wedding, that's their choice but they shouldn't tell you that! i would be so pissed if i were you. i'm impressed with how you kept your cool too! go girl!
  • KellyRVTKellyRVT member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks guys, I appreciate it! It's so nice to have someone to vent to about this stuff besides FI. :)
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  • skippylouwhoskippylouwho member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I am a meat eater but your menu sounds great to me! 
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