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In-Law Issue

Ok, so this is my first post here and I really need help. My wedding is at the end of April and my fiance just found out today that his dad may not be coming to our wedding because of the way his mom acted at his first wedding. He is very upset about this, he wants his dad to be at the wedding. He warned his mom not to make his dad uncomfortable before he got married to his ex-wife, but it didn't stop her. I haven't met his dad yet because he lives far away, and I feel like I don't get a say in any of it because I didn't know his parents at the time this all took place. Our wedding is going to be small so there's no way we could keep them apart by just seating them far from each other. How can I get them to be civil toward each other for one day? Any suggestions at all would help.

-Nicole

Re: In-Law Issue

  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
    Seventh Anniversary 5000 Comments 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    edited December 2011
    You can't. You don't get to control other people's actions, only your reaction to them. If your fFIL is the type of person who will let his anger toward his ex-wife keep him away from celebrating with his son, that's his problem.
  • edited December 2011
    I just wanted to say that I recognize your graphic from hyperboleandahalf.com  I love her blog! Thanks for the advice. I'm still going to try to talk to them both about it because I don't want my fiance to be upset by either of his parents missing our wedding. It's really got him down :(
  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
    Seventh Anniversary 5000 Comments 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    edited December 2011
    It's fine for your fiance to let his father know how he feels. He may also want to have a talk with his mother. Unfortunately--especially since you've never met his father--your hands are kindof tied. Just let your FI know he has your support.
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