Engagement Party

Re: Engagement Party

• froggatt.clare

  

  January 2012

  Yes, it sucks, but that's pretty much how it goes.  FWIW, the only reason we had an engagement party was so our extended families could meet, so if you have been with your FI for this long then they likely already know each other.
  
  Maybe you and your FI could host another sort of party (open house?) just because, if you really want to get your favorite people together.
  

  

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• banana468 member

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_engagement-party-26?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:3546a005-1773-49f0-9c88-3c9fe84f0b55Post:0bd3c271-b47d-40c4-8f47-d73757c83b2c">Engagement Party</a>:
  [QUOTE]First let me start by saying Im not your average bride (or maybe i am..ha ha ha) but my fiance and I have actually been together for years and even have kids but we are just now getting married. Ok, Now although i am a little older (i guess) than some brides, I still want that full bride experience....engagement parties, bridal shower, bachlorette party, etc. But No one seems excited about the wedding but Me, my kids and my soon-to-be hubby. I mean they are but they arent. So does that mean, if no one step up throw us an engagement party...then we just dont have one??? Well, that sucks!!!!
  Posted by niobesmum[/QUOTE]
  
  That's kind of how life works.  Sometimes you don't get what you want or what's "fair" and it can "suck".  But that doesn't mean that it's appropriate to decide that you get to do what you want instead.
  
  One of the largest life lessons out there is to know that it's not always fair.

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• niobesmum

  

  January 2012

  I guess.......

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• banana468 member

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_engagement-party-26?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:3546a005-1773-49f0-9c88-3c9fe84f0b55Post:4a01b60e-09d6-45f6-9b5b-b1d24d836aea">Re: Engagement Party</a>:
  [QUOTE]I guess.......
  Posted by niobesmum[/QUOTE]
  
  You can be bummed but part of being a grown up is moving on.
  
  Otherwise you run the risk of sounding like Cartman in South Park when he told his buddies what they were buying him for his birthday.

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• niobesmum

  

  January 2012

  Actually Im not bummed at all,...Just making a statement. The party will go on....
  
  As for South Park, I really didnt watch that stupidity. But if you have an example from the Family Guy (equally as stupid), now that I can get with. lol
  
  People are quite used to me doing my own thing so nothing will change.

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• banana468 member

  

  January 2012

  Well, there's a difference between 'doing your own thing' and doing what's appropriate.
  
  Example - plenty of brides don't wear white from head to toe.  They add splashes of color to be representative of who they are.
  
  BUT, that has nothing to do with etiquette.

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• niobesmum

  

  January 2012

  Actually, I really dont think its too early to start thinking about it. We tend to get very busy during the spring season cause our kids are into soccer. So alot of details and the "who's doing what" Im taking care of now. That way it wont sneak up on us at the last minute.
  
  My sister actually doesnt mind hosting it. She's my Maid of Honor anyway and she demnded to do the bacholorette party (ha ha). So It all works out. Technically Im not hosting anything but I have to the ball rolling on most of the events and then let folks take over.
  
  And your right....I may just call it an "Its about TIME" Party..:)

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• freebread03 member

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_engagement-party-26?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:3546a005-1773-49f0-9c88-3c9fe84f0b55Post:6b1fb348-6d84-46d1-a020-9ac866c8d6f1">Re: Engagement Party</a>:
  [QUOTE]Actually<u><strong>, I really dont think its too early to start thinking about it.</strong></u> We tend to get very busy during the spring season cause our kids are into soccer. So alot of details and the "who's doing what" Im taking care of now. That way it wont sneak up on us at the last minute. My sister actually doesnt mind hosting it. She's my Maid of Honor anyway and she demnded to do the bacholorette party (ha ha). So It all works out. Technically Im not hosting anything but I have to the ball rolling on most of the events and then let folks take over. And your right....I may just call it an "Its about TIME" Party..:)
  Posted by niobesmum[/QUOTE]
  
  Well, being that these parties are typically held within the months leading up to your wedding, and being that you shouldn't be hosting any of these parties...yeah actually it IS too early to be thinking about these things.  Retread is right.

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• niobesmum

  

  January 2012

  ok....AGAIN...i am not hosting any of these parties.perhaps that wasnt clear, so ill let that go. But telling when and IF I can think about something is taking it a bit far.
  
  1. all I stated was that if no one threw us an engagement party (typically held between 1 to 3 months AFTER you become engaged) then it sucked a little.
  Am i going to die??? no not a biggie
  
  2. As for the rest of the parties, what should I say...oh I dont know Im not thinking about it yet..when someone asked? yeah right. If a family member or friends wwants to know what I'd like to do for one of these parties then, yeah i going to give my opinion. Am I looking for folks to do anything...no not really. Is everyone excited?? No... but frankly who gives a rat's ass?!
  
  
  I see nothing wrong with having what ever wedding (bridal) experience you want whether you're 20, 30, 40 or 50. If people dont like it then too bad for them.

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• jenncocoz

  

  January 2012

  Have one! It's okay to do it yourself! I live in NY and am throwing my own engagement party and as I started planning family started offering their help. Me and my friends like to party no matter what. Noone sees anything wrong with it so Why can't you do it yourself?!

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• jenncocoz

  

  January 2012

  We are getting married end of June 2013 and having the engagement party April 2012... You should have your engagement party soon u don't want It to be too close to the wedding!

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• jenncocoz

  

  January 2012

  Have the party! Screw what these people say... I've just been in a very bad mood for 40 years??! Really?! Why u guna take advice from someone that hates their life. Do what u want do what makes u happy.. If u live by these wack rules that everyone's posting u just guna be miserable like these people

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• [Deleted User]

  

  March 2012

  My fiance and I are actually hosting our own engagement party but it will be super small. Just each of our immediate family, grandparents and those in our bridal party. It's just an extra way to celebrate and announce the engagement and get the immediate family and bridal party more familiar with each other. I don't see anything wrong in doing something like that.

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