Honeymoon Registry?

rose8785 · October 2010

Is it tacky to ask for money towards a honeymoon via a 'honeymoon registry' instead of more traditional gifts like cookware?

kaesha · October 2010

FWIW, I think both are tacky. A honeymoon registry just reads as slightly more so to me.

MNVegas · October 2010

Yes, it is tacky to ask guests to pay for your HM. You will probably get cash gifts without asking for them, so just put those cash gifts towards your HM.

andy71781 · October 2010

Yes.

oxox14 · October 2010

I personally don't think it is. In fact the last 3 showers I went to the girls actually did register for their honeymoon. The way I look at it is that everyone at my shower will be close friends and family. I don't think they would look at anything I do as "tacky" because they are all supportive. All within reason of course, if I registered at a lingerie shop that might be a bit too much. Plus I think it's nice as a gift giver to know your gift is going to make the bride and groom so happy. A little more happy than a pot or pan ;-)

Maybe it also has to do with the area you are from. I am from NJ and it's more like a trend to register for your honeymoon here- at least the people I know.

Like i said it's just my opinion...

Snippylynn · October 2010

I don't understand how people can have a shower when they're just opening slips of paper. What's the point?

oxox14 · October 2010

Snippy: I see what your saying, but what I did when I have a certificate for the honeymoon was put together a little basket with luggage tags, locks and a passport holder...I thought it was a cute gift...

dco324 · October 2010

I've had many people ask if we are going to do a HM registry. Giving experiences is more rewarding than an item, in my opinion and in the opinion of many friends I've talked with. I've given money for a honeymoon and I felt like it was appreciated more than a crockpot. I knew the couple wouldn't have been able to afford a honeymoon if it weren't for the registry. I do not think it's tacky at all although many will disagree. Bottom line-know your guests. If you know your guests are more traditional they may find it tacky. Or you could do a registry for a honeymoon and traditional items and let guests pick where they are comfortable giving.

jemmini6 · October 2010

You will find on here that a lot of people find them tacky. It's really up to you and how you think your friends and family will respond to it.

I personally love the idea and plan to do one because my FI and I have been living together for a while now and have everything we need. We are also not counting on those gifts to be able to have a nice HM either, which I think is important. You should plan a HM you can afford so that if no one gives you money, you are not out of a HM, but if they do, then you just don't have to spend your own money on it.

I also think you should still do a smaller traditional registry, especially if you are having a shower. It would be kind of anti-climactic to go to a gift-giving shower where there are no gifts to open.

Snippylynn · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-22?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:783e29a3-b321-43cc-aae2-8b9c0c2f77abPost:fc7057b3-a702-46c8-993b-be1f0c4025bf">Re: Honeymoon Registry?</a>:
[QUOTE]Snippy: I see what your saying, but what I did when I have a certificate for the honeymoon was put together a little basket with luggage tags, locks and a passport holder...I thought it was a cute gift...
Posted by oxox14@aol.com[/QUOTE]
And how many of those can they get? It just doesn't make any sense. If you want money- you don't get a shower. The purpose of opening anything is kind of defeated.

crushme8602 · October 2010

We did a HM registry as well as a traditional BB&B registry. 1/2 the guys went with the HM registry, and the other 1/2 went with the traditional. It worked out well!

waltzingmatilda13 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_honeymoon-registry-22?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:783e29a3-b321-43cc-aae2-8b9c0c2f77abPost:07904da8-26ce-483d-ba17-90e8abd0a4b5">Re: Honeymoon Registry?</a>:
[QUOTE] I don't think they would look at anything I do as "tacky" because they are all supportive.
Posted by oxox14@aol.com[/QUOTE]

Well of course no one is going to say it to your face. I'd be more concerned about what they were saying/thinking about it behind my back.

h_l_emerich · October 2010

FI and I are going to go the Honeymoon registry route ourselves. We don't need any house items but we do need a good vacation. At least on the registry people can get you an experience and that will make for some nice Thank you cards, maybe with a picture of you enjoying what you got

snowflake350 · October 2010

I'm doing a honeymoon registry and I don't think it's tacky... yeah some people think it is and maybe a few of my guest might and that's not a big deal to me, I know I can't please everybody. The guest I've already told thought it was great idea, some even said they wished they had done that at their wedding. These days more and more couples are living together before marriage and therefore do not need a lot of things. My fi and I have been living together for over a year now, so we do not really need anything, and being a guest at many weddings, I know I'd rather contribute to a nice honeymoon rather than buy some "things" the couple really doesn't need. Everyone has an opinion on the topic, I just think it's up to each bride to decide what is right for them and not to worry if a few guest think something is tacky, that's almost certain to happen with some aspect of the wedding anyways since everyone has different opinions and different beliefs.

ourwedding111111 · October 2010

This topic came up between friends and family long before my FI and I became engaged. It was the thought that, yes a more traditional registry is good to have for those guests wanting to give the bride and groom more traditional gifts ...but that a honeymoon registry was a great idea. Some couples have been living together for a while and may not need items like a toaster or a coffee maker. Sometimes guests enjoy the thought that they are giving you a gift that you will truly enjoy, and will provide wonderful memories for you and your husband. Whether it be a shore excursion, a dinner for 2, a room upgrade.... When you send your thank you notes, you can include a few photos from the honeymoon so that the gift givers can see your enjoyment. A honeymoon registry is something that we would love to do, although since we won't be able to take our honeymoon until sometime after our wedding I don't think we will do.

FutureMrsHusted · October 2010

Totally NOT tacky, as long as approached the right way. My FI and I both lived on our own for a long time before living together so we have more stuff than we know what to do with as it is. There are some things we would like upgrades and a handful of new items, but certainly not enough to fill up a whole registry.

We are planning to do a honeymoon registry as well. We have many family members that have done and it is so neat! Essentially yes, you are just giving money. But you are giving the couple memories and expeirences. I would rather have a massage or snorkeling adventure with my FI than a new blender.

Plus times are changing, most weddings are far from traditional in decor, style, or funding!

I guess it depends on the couple and their circumstances, but it's totally for us

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