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Second wedding excited yet extremely nervous

Hello, 

My name is Crystal and I'm new to the site (and totally addicted already lol). I am planning my second wedding, my FH has never been married and we plan for this to be our very last wedding.

 My FH and I have known each other for about 7 years. We went to high school together and then he was with someone for 6 years. And after high school I was with someone and married a year later and had two kids and am now divorced. My FH also had two kids around the same times. All of our children are the same age and sex; so we have two 3 year old girls and two 2 year old boys. 

The whole time we were friends we were crushing on each other but didn't speak up and then we were with other people until two years ago. Then he got the courage to confess his feelings and I admitted mine as well and, well, here we are! lol 

Anyway, I am extremely happy about this relatioinship and for the wedding. I'm also super nervous because even though his whole family loves me I am a very shy wallflower. I don't know how to be completely relaxed in a crowd. I tense up and get very quiet and shy. 

My first wedding was a complete bust. It was more like a fourth of July backyard BBQ with fireworks. I didn't have a dress (just a white top and white skirt) and our reception was in a bar and the owner kept the bar open so we had a lot of drunk bar people stealing the homemade favors I made and center pieces. And on top of it, I only had seven people from my side show up and five of them were in the wedding party. And after my now ex husband let one of his friends stay at our place for a full week and they just hung out together the whole time.

But I digress. Me and FH Josh are planning a very unique summer wedding. And I'm getting a dress!!!! yay!!!! lol

I'm just trying to overcome my shyness and wondering how we are going to get through the dancing part. I am do a waltz but thats pretty much it and FH doesn't dance. Can we skip the bride and groom dance? 

And when should I start to go dress shopping? We have two years right now but I never was able to really plan my wedding until now. (My ex husbands parents took over my last wedding.) So I am completely clueless right now. Currently I'm just designing some DIY projects and trying to work on the guest list so I know how many handmade invitations and save the dates to make. 

If anyone has ever done any DIY projects they could recommend  or words of encouragement that would be wonderful. 

Crystal 
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Re: Second wedding excited yet extremely nervous

  • Congratulations and welcome to the board!!  

    You don't have to dance unless you want to, so skip that.  My youngest sister is very shy too but she made it through her wedding and reception just fine and you will too. 

    I did a lot of DIY, so if you need ideas or suggestions you can post a question or PM me and I can tell you what we did. 

  • Thank you. 

    We are having a Native American themed wedding since my FH is part Native American. We are also having Mexican food since I was adopted into a Mexican family and have no idea about my true enthinicy. 

    So far I have designed the invintations with a Native American border with a dream catcher at the top to which I will add on dyed feathers in our wedding colors. 

    I also have designed save the dates that I will make on card stock in our main color and stamp on, in various colored inks, a forest background with a wolf and fox on opposite sides and a moon with an owl at the top. The fox and wolf is to play off of our Native American names (I am Night Fox and he is Night Wolf) 

    We were also thinking of having vases with glued on thin tree bark filled with fake flowers for the center pieces. (I just struck a deal on 16 plain vases.) 

    I am also going to be making a possibly chapel length viel to which I will add rinestones and a comb or clip for my hair. 

    And we will be putting together favor boxes for the kids that will be at the wedding. I will be printing out pages for a mini coloring book, and we will have stickers, crayons, some small toys, and a treat for each kid. 

    Thats all we have figured so far. 
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  • Congratulations!!!  Sounds like you already have plenty of ideas, but you might enjoy lurking on the DIY board if you haven't found it yet.  I'm pretty much to the point that I need to stop getting new creative ideas and work on the ones I already have.  Smile

    Since you have a bit of time, enjoy dreaming and gathering ideas and research, research, research (especially if you are on a small budget).  Do be careful, though, of making too many firm decisions this far out as your ideas and relationships (with potential bridesmaids, for example) may change in the next two years.

    Have fun!!!
  • We honored our hertiages - our entrance into the ceremony site was Native American (II'm Native American) with us each entering from the side in front of family and friends and being escorted by our mothers. My DH is 1/2 Mexican and 1/2 Irish  - we had Mexican Wedding Cookies as part of our dessert and the claddaugh was on our cocktail napkins.  

    We all have really bad allergies so all of our flowers were silk as were our centerpieces. 

    Your ideas sound lovely!! 


  • Welcome and thanks for sharing your story. Very charming!

    I did a lot of DIY, my invitations from kits, my centerpiece flowers (Costco), made my table runners, programs, some flip flops for my BM and myself, ceremony dress and bolero, water bottle labels, flower girl floral ball, wreaths for the chapel doors, vellum covers for the votive holders and memorial candles,..........lots more, LOL.

    There are a lot of things you don't need, you'll figure out what's important for you two to have at your wedding. If you are crafty at all, and have a good printer at home, you can do whatever paper items you want.

    I found everything "out of the ordinary" by simply googling.

    I agree, wait on the dress until about a year away from your wedding. The most important things to do first are 1) guest list, which leads to 2) budget, then 3) venue if you want something that ordinarily is rented about a year or more ahead of time.

    Once you decide on something (like colors or style), stop looking around for other ideas other than how to DIY them. Include your fiance in everything, and if he has no interest, then go ahead and run your ideas by him. My husband didn't care about the "details", but I still showed him what ideas I had. He was involved in the food and cake tasting, we chose our alcohol together, I showed him the ties & pocket squares we ordered for our groomsmen online before ordering.

    Good luck and come back and share your details, we love hearing about them. What you've described already sounds very personal and lovely.
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