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Help needed please!

sk8erdevil19sk8erdevil19
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So ok in September I made some really good friends in Nursing school, but after my first semester I had to leave because I couldn't afford it, well at the time when we sent out our Save the Dates (in february for an October wedding) we hadn't really talked and I just said "ah whatever they're busy with school. Well school has been out for over a month and I've tried calling and texting all of them but I have yet to hear back from them. Well now we are getting to the point of invitations and I don't know if I even really wanna invite them. We are on a budget, and I don't want them to just come eat and leave, I want people there that want to be there and have fun for our special day. Anyway any sort of advice would be wonderful. We're going to get our invites out probably the end of July. Thanks in advance. 
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  • nda_roxybabenda_roxybabe member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_needed-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a42f2b71-93b1-4914-a02f-03ff8b756245Post:879b7263-8542-473e-9fe8-3fa0faf71db4">Help needed please!</a>:
    [QUOTE]So ok in September I made some really good friends in Nursing school, but after my first semester I had to leave because I couldn't afford it, well at the time when we sent out our Save the Dates (in february for an October wedding) we hadn't really talked and I just said "ah whatever they're busy with school. Well school has been out for over a month and I've tried calling and texting all of them but I have yet to hear back from them. Well now we are getting to the point of invitations and I don't know if I even really wanna invite them. We are on a budget, and I don't want them to just come eat and leave, I want people there that want to be there and have fun for our special day. Anyway any sort of advice would be wonderful. We're going to get our invites out probably the end of July. Thanks in advance.  ~Robin
    Posted by sk8erdevil19[/QUOTE]
    Wait, you're wanting responses from your STD's?
    If you sent them STD's I'd send them invites unless you're okay ruining that friendship

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  • shannonaliseshannonalise
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    You asked them to "save the date" for your wedding. Which means that there's a good chance that they did and are awaiting invitations. Suck it up and send invitations. If they can't come, they can't come. But you've asked them to save the date, so you should really follow through and actually invite them.

    "Suck it up" seems to be my phrase tonight. It's good advice. Just fuucking suck it up! Laughing But really, good luck!
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  • ExpatPumpkinExpatPumpkin member
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    Etiquette says you send an invite to everyone who receives an STD.  But if you're willing to forfeit/break off the friendships then it's up to you.
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  • sk8erdevil19sk8erdevil19
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    no i've been trying to get in touch with them to just hang out and do something.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_needed-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a42f2b71-93b1-4914-a02f-03ff8b756245Post:f62b558c-af2c-458c-b942-933daebd10ee">Re: Help needed please!</a>:
    [QUOTE]no i've been trying to get in touch with them to just hang out and do something.
    Posted by sk8erdevil19[/QUOTE]

    Well, they probably won't come anyway, but go ahead and send the invitations to be polite. You're not really losing anything.
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    Ditto shannonalise. And you may not get a rsvp back from them either.
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  • hd7694hd7694
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    You should have thought about that before sending out the STD's.  How often did you hang out with them after you left school?  I was really good friends with several of my nursing classmates and I finished the whole year.  How many of them are coming to our wedding? ONE and she is one of my BM's.  Send them the invitation, they probably won't come anyway (but don't count on that either).
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  • danieliza1127danieliza1127 member
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    If you sent save the dates, you have to send invitations, even if they aren't returning your calls to hang out.

    The thing is, you met these girls for a couple of months and then you left while they continued on together in school.  So odds are that they continued a friendship that you just weren't part of anymore.  It's too bad, but it does happen.  School and work friends don't always last when school or work ends.  
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