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Spending wedding money before the wedding?

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My fiance and I finding ourselves very strapped for cash and still have some major spending to do before the wedding in two weeks. Fortunately we have a very generous aunt and uncle who already sent us quite a large check as a gift. Is it completely disgusting to cash it and use it before the wedding?
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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    Technically you are not supposed to use wedding gifts (including cash) before the wedding. What type of spending is it? If it's for the wedding and you can't afford it on your own, I would cut back.

    If it was, "If I don't use this money, we can't put food on the table and our electricity will be turned off," then yeah, I would probably use the money just to make end's meet.


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    Sorry but I agree. Using the money before the wedding is questionable because it means that you can't afford the wedding. Now if there is no alternative or you'll have to borrow or charge the balance I guess you don't really have an option.
     
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    Two weeks before the wedding I don't know if there's anywhere that OP could save money -- contracts are signed, invites are sent!  And I've seen posted on other boards that you should cash gift checks ASAP to let the sender know you received them without problem, so I say cash it and use it.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_spending-wedding-money-before-the-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:e9624913-0885-4d0d-a90c-1af6ea8be9acPost:392f2d53-af90-460f-b908-169c62bfbc7c">Re: Spending wedding money before the wedding?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Two weeks before the wedding I don't know if there's anywhere that OP could save money -- contracts are signed, invites are sent!  <strong>And I've seen posted on other boards that you should cash gift checks ASAP to let the sender know you received them without problem, so I say cash it and use it.</strong>
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    Cashing the checks doesn't equal using them. The idea behind not using wedding presents beforehand is if, for any reason, the wedding were not to happen, you should give all gifts (including money) back to the gift-giver. I am not saying OP's wedding won't happen, but that's the reasoning behind it. She could just keep the cash in her account and not touch it until after the wedding.

    I guess last-minute stuff I did was do my favors, escort cards, table numbers, etc. A lot of the little details. If this is the kind of stuff she still has to do, she could cut back on a lot of these items.


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  • emeejeeayenemeejeeayen member
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    Cash the check. Don't spend it.
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  • Avion22Avion22 member
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    Definitely cash the check, or desposit it.   As long as you have a means to return that ammount of money should the wedding not take place for any reason (family emergency, natural disaster, freak accident), then let it mingle with the rest of your money and spend what needs to be spent.

    But, I would hazard that if you can't afford the wedding you've planned without this money,then you would find it challenging to repay it if you had to.
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  • kmsst48kmsst48 member
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    Cash it and spend it. I mean, it's two weeks. Send a Thank You like NOW and be sure to let them know how wonderful the gift of money was to put towards your new life together. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I mean, when I give money I know they're taking the cash on their honeymoon and making a car payment LOL. Why the heck do I care what they do with a gift of cash. Maybe just keep it hush that you already spent it if it's such a faux pas. But yea, spend it. :)
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