Wedding Colors and Theme... How do you feel? Too Much?

Re: Wedding Colors and Theme... How do you feel? Too Much?

• kaynix21 member

  

  January 2010 edited December 2011

  So....I think it's fine.
  
  Our wedding is July 3rd, and FI will be a 2nd lieutenant by that time. Red is our main color, red in my dress and on the BMs. Blue is our accent color.
  
  So I'm totally going all out red white and blue. Hopefully it won't be over kill, but I'm going to have lots of fun with it.
  
  But I think that your idea sounds good.
  
  What kind of food would you do? You mentioned not having a full meal, which is fine. Maybe like desert reception or punch and cake?
  
  It is totally fine to not have children and that is above and beyond sweet of you to have already decided to set up soem form of child care.
  
  I also won't be having children at our wedding, it'll be children 12 and over.

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• kyrgyzstan member

  

  January 2010 edited December 2011

  I think as long as you do deeper reds and blues as opposed to colormatching the flag, you'll be okay.
  
  However, you don't have to match uniforms. They don't even match themselves.
  

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• MilitaryBride2Be

  

  January 2010 edited December 2011

  I think you'll be fine! What I'm going to do for mine is play up the blue and red and have white be a smaller accent color.

  
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• saranmikey member

  

  January 2010 edited December 2011

  I think it will be beautiful. What do you mean the uniforms don't match? The USMC uniform is beautiful.
  
  Anyway, the only problem I have with your plan is asking guests to bring you alcohol. What if you don't get enough? If they are traveling by air it would require them to check a bag which costs money now -- or they will have to go out and buy it once they arrive.
  
  I think it is a little rude to ask, but hey if that is your plan go for it. Oh -- and as long as you are offering heavy hor'derves you should be fine.

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• squirrly member

  

  January 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_wedding-colors-theme-feel-much?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:5f39362a-9d96-44b3-bade-9949bd6a933bPost:4ea28fe2-9f9a-404a-ba6e-c5af8c7af8b9">Wedding Colors and Theme... How do you feel? Too Much?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hello Ladies (and Gents?)! I am going to be marrying a wonderful Lt in the Marine Corps next year or the one after that, and I have what I think is a great idea for my wedding but that has been received cooly by those I've shared it with, so I am looking for your honest opinions.  My sister had the most beautiful, sweet and innocent summer wedding that I could not possibly compete with (I know it's not a competition... but it is between sisters in a way right?) so I would like to do the exact opposite.. something distinctly different that cannot even be compared to hers. Posted by kavanaghe[/QUOTE]
  
  Really, you should plan what suits you and your FIs tastes and wishes - and don't worry about your sister or her wedding.  Seriously, unless you wear her dress, marry her H, have her BMs, and have it at her venue, your guests won't remember her wedding.  You might.  She will.  Nobody else, though - not even her H or your FI.
  
  [QUOTE]Here's what I'm thinking.. Black Tie/Dress Blues Traditional Catholic Church January, Evening Ceremony 18+ Age restriction (I have a HUGE Catholic family) Main Color = Deep Navy Accents in dark Red (matches USMC uniforms?) My dress in lace (possibly vintage-y) His family crest as the theme (a red lion and two crescents) Bagpipes and the USMC sabre arch for the recessional Drinks and lots of hors d'oeuvres following the ceremony Problems: IT WOULD BE RED WHITE AND BLUE... is that too much? or would it be less noticeable because the USMC uniforms are those colors? I'm all for patriotism, but I don't want it to be cheesy. Posted by kavanaghe[/QUOTE]
  
  Honestly, I think it's a little much.  But not terrible.  Mostly just the family crest is what puts it over the edge for me.  Reel that back in and I think you'll be fine.
  
  [QUOTE]Is it rude to not invite children? I would like to give the parents an enjoyable night away from them and I would provide babysitting at our family farm. Posted by kavanaghe[/QUOTE]
  
  It's not exactly rude, but some people will likely be upset anyway.  You need to be sure that you're uniform in the way you apply the age restriction, though. 
  
  [QUOTE]Is it okay to not feed guests a full meal? I honestly have too many family members to afford to feed them, Posted by kavanaghe[/QUOTE]
  
  If you're not going to feed them, be sure your reception isn't at mealtime.  That would essentially prevent them from eating dinner, which WOULD be rude and unacceptable.  You could have a 7 pm ceremony, and just apps and cake after that.  Or, same thing with a 2:30 pm ceremony.  But a 5:30 pm ceremony would put the reception during dinner, which means you would need to serve dinner.
  
  Also, if you're not providing a full meal, I would say "Cocktail Reception to Follow" so that guests are aware.
  
  [QUOTE]our bar is even going to be stocked with the alcoholic gifts we will be asking our young friends to bring (we thought it would be less expensive for our friends to bring liquor or wine as a gift since many will be flying in from out of town and barely supporting themselves as it is). I know this is long, but I would so appreciate your comments!
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  This is what got me. 
  1) YOU CAN NOT DEMAND GIFTS.  Even inexpensive ones.  Please don't ask your young friends to do this.
  2) HAVE A WEDDING YOU CAN AFFORD.  Invite fewer people.  Serve only beer and wine.  Whatever.  But don't expect your guests to supply the bar.  Worst version of a cash bar I've ever heard of.  Bad, bad, BAD idea.

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• sarahgayle723

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  I don't think it is rude at all to not invite children. I hardly think that a formal wedding reception is an appropriate place for children (maybe not so much the case for more laid back receptions), and the parents will probably enjoy themselves more if they don't have their children with them to keep track of. I also can't stand it when the bouquet toss has a bunch of kids in it. So irritating.

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• kyrgyzstan member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_wedding-colors-theme-feel-much?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:5f39362a-9d96-44b3-bade-9949bd6a933bPost:e6255f70-d353-40d9-8e5a-292a7b324fcb">Re: Wedding Colors and Theme... How do you feel? Too Much?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I think it will be beautiful. What do you mean the uniforms don't match? The USMC uniform is beautiful. Anyway, the only problem I have with your plan is asking guests to bring you alcohol. What if you don't get enough? If they are traveling by air it would require them to check a bag which costs money now -- or they will have to go out and buy it once they arrive. I think it is a little rude to ask, but hey if that is your plan go for it. Oh -- and as long as you are offering heavy hor'derves you should be fine.
  Posted by saranmikey[/QUOTE]
  
  Considering I love the Marine Corps more than anything besides my country, I like the uniform just fine. But it doesn't match itself. Black blouse, blue trousers, red and yellow accents? It doesn't match itself. I didn't say it wasn't beautiful.

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• katiebenes member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  all I have to say: It's your wedding
  Your dress won't be:
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  that's over the top patriotic.
  I'm marrying a marine too... same idea exactly on the colors. (though fighting with my mother about them.)
  Just go with it. If people make the red white and blue comment... you can find a nice way to say shove it... its my wedding.
  

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• armywifey616

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  I love the whole idea! I'm an Army Wife to be, so I definitely understand the red part. That's my main color. Only thing is our Class A's are green... haha. But we will see how it all plays out! GO FOR IT!

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• evabee member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_wedding-colors-theme-feel-much?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:5f39362a-9d96-44b3-bade-9949bd6a933bPost:3cd72a19-9f4e-4e6e-b0e1-7e0bf3b5e04a">Re: Wedding Colors and Theme... How do you feel? Too Much?</a>:
  [QUOTE] This is what got me.  1) YOU CAN NOT DEMAND GIFTS.  Even inexpensive ones.  Please don't ask your young friends to do this. 2) HAVE A WEDDING YOU CAN AFFORD.  Invite fewer people.  Serve only beer and wine.  Whatever.  But don't expect your guests to supply the bar.  Worst version of a cash bar I've ever heard of.  Bad, bad, BAD idea.
  Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>I think if you call them and say "hey we're depending on you to stock the bar" that's a bad idea, just because it may make your guest uncomfortable, but if I understand your earlier posts correctly you're providing beer and wine but when your income challenged and very close OOT friends ask what they can give as a gift, you/BMs are telling them they could just pick up a bottle of their favorite liquor once they get in town. </div><div>If that IS the case, I think it's a great idea! I would have really appreciated being able to just bring a bottle and know that we were all going to drink it that night, so I was contributing to the celebration without breaking the bank. You could even ask them to come up with a mixed drink involving the liquor they like and name it after them on the bar menu. Also, I would think about including directions to a liquor store on your wedding website... just as a POI.</div><div>
  </div><div>Not worst idea. Anyways, no one's ideas are THE WORST... how would you feel, PP, if someone called your idea THE WORST?</div>

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• hh581842 member

  

  February 2010 edited December 2011

  First, I think you should forget your sis and do whatever it is YOU really want to do. If that means a summer wedding then so be it!!!! lol.
  
  Second, I like the theme itself, including the crest.  And it is 100% Ok to have an adult only reception ESPECIALLY if you have a babysitter. I don't want crying babies ruining my fun either! lol.  And i want parents and my reception to have a much needed break and be adults for a change.
  
  3rd, I think the colors will be fine, but tone them down. do a very deep navy, and a deep red with accents of burgundy.  And what if you only used a tiny bit of white but added Silver as a color?  it is a winter wedding after all.  I think it would help even more with keeping it classy and far away from cheesy. 
  
  As far as the no meal thing...hmmm.....that makes me uncomfortable.  You would have to have a short reception.  because like the earlier post said, if the reception is during a mealtime, it is rude not to feed everyone a meal. And if the reception is long, same problem: people will get very hungry!
  
  The alcohol---Yikes!!! Please do not ask your guests (even the one's you're close to!!) to bring alcohol as a gift.  I think it's very rude.  If you can't afford to supply the alcohol yourself then you shouldn't have it.  you cannot depend on someone else do it.  What I think you should really do is cut down the guest list to just close family and friends and then that way you can have a wedding you can afford and not cut out all the basics like food and drink. Honestly, that's what people always remember about weddings anyway.  Did they get stuffed and a little buzzed? check.  Good time? check.  lol. 
  

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