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[Deleted User] · August 2011

Hi ladies-

Hope your Thursday is going well! So, this girl I've been friends with for yrs (since middle school) is getting married Sat. I'm going to her ceremony but not her reception because I'm in another wedding that evening and I'm doing all of it alone because FI is away training. Well, this week the responses for our wedding were due and she hadn't turned hers in. I asked her if she and her guy were coming and she responded with "yeah, prob not because he's not sure if he's off work and I don't like the city" WTF? Then she told me she was planning on bringing a friend if her guy couldn't come but when she saw how I reacted to her bringing a total stranger to our wedding she thought it was a bad idea. (I guess that's just something I would never dream of doing and I have no poker face?) Finally she says to me "What, are you like, mad at me?" umm, yes. Actually, I am. you're not only late with your response, you're not coming because you don't like the city and don't want to come alone where you don't know anyone (the other reasons). I'm going to YOUR wedding alone where I know no one this weekend, ya jerk! Don't you go to a wedding to watch the people getting married? It's about the Bride and Groom, right

oy veyyy.

LetsHikeToday · August 2011

That's definitely nice of you to go to her ceremony even though you're in another wedding and don't know anyone. I totally know how frustrating it is to not get back RSVPs. We had to go through that too.

Honestly though, if I were going to a wedding ceremony and reception and H couldn't come and I didn't know anyone, I might not go. If I had to drive into the city alone and knew no one going, I would want to bring someone.

Since you already had her H in the budget, could you let her bring someone?

kara811 · August 2011

Ditto Hike. Not trying to be snarky, but if I didn't know anyone else at a wedding and H couldn't come with me, I would have to turn it down, although I would still send a gift because I am friends with tbe bride. It is definitely nice of you to attend her wedding, but you didn't have to attend that either because you already have another occassion going on.

If you'd rather her be there, then why not just let the friend come? Personally, if I can bring another date than my H, then I would love that. I do understand that RSVPs are frustating. We only got less than half back for our wedding and had to call everyone else!

[Deleted User] · August 2011

HI HIke-

I think the delivery of "well I'm just going to bring someone else" assuming instead of asking (and that may just be me who is annoyed with it) but I would never just "bring" someone else to a wedding. Now, if she had said to me "hey, do you think I could bring homegirl in place of homeboy if he can't come so I'm not totally lost in your small crowd?" different delivery, guaranteed different reaction.

And I get the whole comfort thing, really I do, but she does know ppl there and we're providing transportation to the wedding so no one has to drive at all. I feel like there are lots of excuses and it really hurts my feelings because I've gone out of my way to make it to her wedding, make it up to her when I missed her shower (I had to work), and she's blown everything off when it comes to our wedding.

LetsHikeToday · August 2011

Burger- I agree that it's all in the delivery.

I understand your feelings are hurt. I think that can happen a lot in wedding planning. That's why I'm glad mine is over :-)

It's totally up to you if she brings a random guest or not. Just try to be prepared that she might not come.

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