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June 2013 Weddings

Buyer's remorse (long rant, sorry)

Ugh. I was so glad that I booked everything up really fast and got the vendors I wanted. Well, now I've learned that my baker cannot do buttercream in any color but white.

Let me just say that I know that this is not the end of the world. People have much bigger problems than this.

That being said, I "saved the date" with $50 and planned on a cake that was probably going to be over $800. In fairness, my first picture I showed them was white, but come on. Don't you think it should be mentioned that it's the only option? I've been speaking with the bakery manager, and he said that colors come out too streaky. I just looked at their portfolio again and all of their buttercream cakes are white with colored decorations.

So my mother tells me tonight that she went down there to try some cupcakes. She mentioned to this same manager that her daughter was going to be getting her wedding cake there. When she told him my name, he said, "Oh yeah, she came in here with a girl with a bunch of tattoos and piercings (my sister) and she said you're going to be paying $450 towards her cake." 

Now, my mother told me that's what she paid for my sister's cake, but we hadn't actually discussed that she would be doing the same for me. My sister got a cheap cake from a local donut shop. It tasted like donuts. Not bad donuts, but everyone I talked to brought up after her wedding that the cake tasted like donuts. So I casually mentioned it to this baker not knowing he was going to bring it up to my mother someday. So now she's ticked off about that.

Then my mother said she started her sob story about how she can't afford an expensive cake, and the manager tells her that they're one of the most expensive bakeries in the area. (And they can't do beige icing?!?) My mother has this idea that if you make people feel sorry for you, they'll lower the price. 

Now she says that the cupcake she had was terrible, like she's trying to get me to go somewhere else. I don't know if I'm more angry at my mother or the baker! You know, I try to have a little dignity, something I wasn't exactly raised with. I don't need to be this bakery manager's best friend, I just want his wife to make my cake gorgeous and delicious. I've been working with them on some custom flavors, and I don't want to start all over, but now I'm embarrassed to even go there again.

Now that I've written this all out, I think I'll just shut my mouth, get a small groom's cake with my deposit, and go elsewhere for my wedding cake. I wanted people to be interested in my wedding, but I guess everyone is going to have to be spectators.


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Re: Buyer's remorse (long rant, sorry)

  • I agree with not getting your cake from them. Any good bakery can replicate your costum flavors, so I'd go somewhere else mention you had a back experience with lack of communication and you'd like someone more attentive and straight forward. You have more Moxy than me. I'd probably chalk up my $50 as a loss and just go somewhere else. Good for you for deciding to stick with getting something from them. 

    That's absolutely unprofessional that he told your mother she was paying for part of it. I would have lost my sh!t on them if they talked about my money versus others and who's paying for what without me present. 
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  • That baker sounds completely unprofessional. I think your plan of getting a groom's cake from there but looking elsewhere for your wedding cake is a good one. You have no reason to be embarrassed- if anyone in this scenario should be feeling that way, it's your mother and the baker. Good luck getting this straightened out.

  • I agree with not getting a cake from them as well. It does suck that you'll have to lose $50, but since you've mentioned that they are one of the pricey bakeries around, maybe in the end it will come up as a saving anyways? It does suck that you'll have to do all the leg work with the other bakery again, but at least you've been through the process already so I think it shouldn't be too bad.

    And I wouldn't be too embarassed because of your mom, my mom is the same way sometimes - she'd say things that I would have never even thought of saying, and sometimes I feel awkward, but in the end she's always been like that and I've learned just to accept it and not to dwell on it.
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  • they cant change the color of the buttercream!!!!!!!!!!! that is the most stupid thing i have ever heard since all they have to do is add some food coloring to the batch!!!. but one thing u do need to  know about icing is that the color you want might not be the one that u see the day of your wedding because colors seem to change on the cake due to light.
  • I totally agree with the PPs. I definitely would not have my wedding cake made by that bakery, they acted so unprofessionally. I would either just loose out on the $50 or get a grooms cake made, thats a good idea, or if you are going to have a cake for your shower, you could always use it towards that too. What bakery is this? Just so if they are on my list I can take them off! If you dont want to post it here, please PM me!
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  • @ sparkles776: YGPM


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