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Menus or No Menus?

I'm getting married at The Barns at Wesleyan Hills in 9 days and I can't decide if we should do menus or not. The guests already had to pick their meal on their response cards however, they can change their mind at the wedding. There is no indicator or marker on their place cards saying what meal they ordered. 

Should we do menus or not on each place setting? What did everyone else do? I've really only attended weddings in Westchester County, NY where you don't have to pick your meal beforehand so there is always a menu at each setting.
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Re: Menus or No Menus?

  • Mona8Mona8 member
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    We did not do menus, mostly because I didn't think it was necessary and it was one more thing to do that I just did not have time for.  With 9 days left, I personally wouldn't worry about them.

    ...and congrats on being so close to your big day!!
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  • Thank you! She actually just sent me the proof for them - I had been waiting but was going to cancel. I guess I will just go with them now! 
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  • Good to know as we are getting married at the barns as well. Why would they ask for a head count on meals if they can change it the night of? I have also seen pictures of people writing the menu on a blackboard near the cocktail tent.
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  • Yea I was going to do the chalkboard menu but I am using a lot of other chalkboards for different things such as table #s, signature drink, sparkler exit, guestbook, place cards etc. so I didn't want to overload on chalkboards!

    I guess they just want an estimated count? They probably don't like it if guests change their mind but I'm sure they can. 
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  • Here is our menu proof - it goes with all of our other wedding stationary


    And then I asked if they could tie it like this with twine on the napkin:




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  • The menu came out great!! I think if you have extra money in your budget then get them, but if not, don't worry about them. Most of the weddings I go to don't use menus and we never miss them. 
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  • Although the Barns will let someone change their option because they have extras of the different choices, not completely encouraged because they could end up being short on an item.  I got married at the Barns and didn't do an menu cards because everyone already had chosen and I didn't think it was necessary to confuse people with a menu.

    With that said, I think the proof came out really nice and will look good as a tie in to everything else.
  • The proof came out really nice, and I also like the ideal of how its tied with twine :) We are also using a lot of chalkboards at our wedding too. I will probalby ask more about this at our details meeting to see what other couples did, and what they reccommend. I

     do know that at the most recent wedding we went to we responded back with what we wanted, and the waiters still came around to ask what we were having and I had to ask my mother what we put down.  

    Did they say if it was an option to put colored markers on the backs of the escort cards?
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  • jjswinjjswin member
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    I was thinking the same as you with the menu. Every wedding I have been to (on Long Island) you pick your dinner at the wedding so there is a need for a menu. But since everyone picked their dinner I was unsure what I should do. I was thinking just doing one per table and putting it in a nice frame in the middle for everyone to look at. My FI told me to spend my thoughts and time on something else I want more, lol. So I guess I won't be doing them.
  • I asked if I should and she said it wasn't necessary, that they would still ask everyone what they wanted. I'm sure they wouldn't object if you did but she told me I didn't have to. I also didn't really want to because again, it really isn't  common in weddings of my circle of friends.
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  • I was just at my cousin's wedding at the Barns at Weslyean Hills last night. They didn't have a menu there since the servers came to every table to let everyone know what choices we had for appetizer/salad and entrees and asked us what we want. The server told us that the head count is really just to get a rough idea and they always take account into people making last minute changes. 
  • I was just at my cousin's wedding at the Barns at Weslyean Hills last night. They didn't have a menu there since the servers came to every table to let everyone know what choices we had for appetizer/salad and entrees and asked us what we want. The server told us that the head count is really just to get a rough idea and they always take account into people making last minute changes. 
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