Blended Children

Re: Blended Children

• MikesAngie member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  Congratulations and welcome!  Since your children are adults I would talk with them and see what their thoughts are with regard to this subject.

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• right1thistime member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  I am sure you are a nice mom/ step mom.  But at 30-35 - at that point in their lives, they should be giving YOU gifts for your long awaited wedding.  You are not forcing them to live in the same house, share a room or anything other than share one of their parents.  Let them have the opportunity to bestow a gift onto the two of you, I'm going to bet that they will appreciate being able to do it ~Donna

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• squarepeg72

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  Ask them ... I'm sure they will speak their minds. We are filling an hourglass with sand (one color for each person) during the ceremony and then giving small jar with all the sand after the cermeony.

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• mybooboos member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  Welcome and Congratulations!! 
  
  I agree with the PP - get their input on how they may want to be involved.  Would this be during the ceremony or during a private time before/afterwards?  As adults, they may have their own ideas with this.
  

  Presentation is everything!!
  

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• Sue-n-Kevin member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  Welcome Susan, nice name
  
  I agree with everyone else. My fiance & I have 3 older children (between 23-30) and 2 teenaged girls. My 16 y/o daughter will be my maid of honor. My fiance & I talked about getting them claddagh rings or pendants (Irish themed, 2 hands holding a heart), but honestly, they are adults and only 2 live with us. Three of our kids are standing up with us, one is doing readings. His grandson will be the ringbearer, his 2 granddaughters will be our flower girls.
  
  Ask them how they'd like to take part. Although they are adults, they are "inheriting" a step parent, so yes, it is a blending of families. Maybe they'd like to do a sand ceremony, where each has a different color and they are blended. Or perhaps, they'd all like to stand up in the wedding. Maybe you can choose a long reading, where each one reads a part of it. But ask them, because they may not all want to take part in whatever you choose.
  
  You needn't get them gifts to represent the blending of families. If they stand up in your wedding, you can get them attendant gifts of some type.
  
  Good luck. Looking forward to hearing your plans!

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• susan12854 member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  Thanks to everyone for their comments, it has been helpful. My first husband died a long time ago when my children were young. My daughter will be a bridesmaid and my son will walk me down the aisle. My fiance will be asking his two sons to assist in the ceremony. I guess I am wondering if it would be nice to get a small token for all four of the children to unite all of us into this blended family even though all children are adults and my fiance and I have been engage for over ten years? Thanks again to everyone.

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• Marrin713 member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  You mean you want to get each of them a gift?  That's how I read it.
  
  To be honest, I think your happiness will be gift enough

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• AbbeyS2011 member

  

  January 2011 edited December 2011

  First of all, congratulations!
  
  Since it sounds like all of them will be involved in your ceremony, getting them each a nice thank-you or a wedding party gift should be just fine.  If you want to add something heartfelt, write each of them a personal note to go with the gift. 

  

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