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Wedding Wars!!

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My deceased father's mother does not support the idea of a wedding dress, eventful reception, or shower for a second marriage.

Do I even invite that side to the upcoming events?  I don't want them to feel left out or resentful of attending second marriage events. 
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Re: Wedding Wars!!

  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
    Seventh Anniversary 5000 Comments 25 Love Its First Answer
    edited December 2011

    Welcome Nukke! Do what you want. Read the prior posts. Most of the problems that second brides have are related to family issues with a second marriage, whether it is their kids, their adult relatives, or parents.

    Do what you want. I wouldn't exclude them from invitations, but you'll find out before you send the invites if they soften their attitudes. Perhaps you can have a heart to heart and indicate that this is important to you, you don't want to exclude that side of the family, and find out what it is that is keeping them from being enthusiastic?

    Good luck.

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  • Marrin713Marrin713 member
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    edited December 2011
    I say invite them.  Put the ball in their court.
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  • nmauser82nmauser82 member
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    edited December 2011
    Invite them if you want. An invitation is not summons. They don't have to attend if they feel that strongly about it. They have no cause to be resentful.
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  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
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    edited December 2011
    Why is this a "War"?  Why is Sue calling you Nukke?

    Invite the people you want to have at the celebration, who will be loving and supportive.  Grandparents tend to be old fashioned, so if she is loving and joyful, but doesn't quite "get" that second weddings are not a time to wear sackcloth and ashes- you should feel free to invite her if you want her there.  If she is disdainful and judgemental, and will make you feel bad- skip it.  If she chooses not to come because she disapproves, it is her loss.  ~Donna
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  • 2dBride2dBride member
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't leave out that whole side of the family because one member of it is judgmental.  It may well be that others in that family would be happy to celebrate with you.
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