Fiance wants to watch football at the reception

ekimberl · March 2010

So my fiance is a die-hard Oregon State fan. We knew that the first football game of 2010 would be on our wedding day, but since it is being played in Texas and we are in Oregon, I hoped that the timing wouldn't conflict. Of course, it does... the game will start at 4:45pm and the wedding is at 5pm. He has asked me to show the game at the reception, during the dinner. The reception is from 7-11, so it'd probably just be an hour or so, but it is the FIRST hour - the same time as the first dance, etc. I'm torn.

In some ways, I think it is ridiculous for him to suggest it and think he needs to deal with missing ONE stupid game. On the other hand, I understand that his family and friends do care a lot about the game and will miss the dinner portion of the reception to go watch it. I'm not kidding.

I'm torn. What should I do?

tiffgriffin7 · March 2010

Wow! Can't they DVR it? I was totally taken aback until I realized you are a Beavers fan. Now it makes sense, lol. I am from a Ducks family and you guys are crazy!

Honestly, it is one very special day and I think your family and FI will be more understanding. Maybe make it party to watch it on DVR the next day. They should really be more understanding, not you.

I can't believe they would leave the reception to watch a football game, its not like the Civil War game. I would be really upset.

I don't really understand what your question is though? Are you asking if you should change the date or the time to accomodate the game? I say no.

ekimberl · March 2010

Nope, I'm not changing the time of the wedding. I'm debating having a small projector show the game at the reception... I don't know... I really don't want it, but they truly care.

The other option is to have the bar at the hotel (where the reception is) show it there. People can leave the reception room to go check scores without it being a focal point of our reception.

tiffgriffin7 · March 2010

hmm, that is tough. If most of your friends/family love football and would be happy to watch it at dinner than maybe it would be really fun but if it is only a few it could be obnoxious to everyone else. But I wouldn't like the idea of people leaving the reception either - the guys will just stay in there and drink.

cosborne2583 · March 2010

wow really, so there is this lovely invention called tivo, and they have a cousin by the name of dvr. He should get to know them very well. and you can always remind him the severity of this day that will only happen once versus game opener after game opener.he has the rest of your lives to drink beer and watch football.

trix1223 · March 2010

My son was an all-state soccer player. Without realizing it, they scheduled their wedding for the final match of the FIFA World Cup. They missed it.

It's a game. Get over it. And this IS coming from a huge sports fan. But sheesh.

tracy_k · March 2010

Showing the game on a projector during dinner is a bit much, IMO. The farthest I would likely go is having the DJ announce the score every so often. If some of the guests sneak out to watch during the dinner hour, you honestly most likely would not even notice, as you'll be too busy visiting guests and talking.

Of course, this doesn't help your fiance, but when he agreed to have the wedding on this date he should have known this was a possibility.

That said, you know your family & guests much better than we do. If the vast majority would love it, and you wouldn't find it horribly objectionable, it might be fun. Good luck!

MyNameIsNot · March 2010

You scheduled your wedding knowing this was an issue, so it isn't like this should be a surprise to you. If it's important to your FI, I think it should be important to you too. This is his wedding, too. He should be happy at it.

That said, I'd show it in the cocktail room or let people go to the bar and watch it, or maybe have the DJ report the scores at the end of each quarter over showing it on a projector during dinner.

Barakins · March 2010

I think the best suggestion made here was to record the game and set up a meetup for the next day for everyone to watch it. Or maybe dvr it and have a separate room for them to be able to watch it during the reception, but only AFTER the first hour or so. :-)

mdavies10 · March 2010

i agree with everyone here - record it...or even as a fun aspect to the reception if everyone's really into - get someone to keep track of the score or plays or whatever it is people want to know and update every 10 mins or so...that way they can have a little woohoo and carry on with the wedding knowing that they'll get more updates as soon as something happens? maybe turn it into something fun to do with the reception...everytime his team wins you have to kiss or something fun like that. i'd recommend not showing it and not leaving the wedding at any time to watch it though.

JHS16 · March 2010

Would you FI be ok with allowing you and your female family members to play Project Runway (or any other popular girlie show) during the wedding? I just don't think half your wedding guests will be interested, IMO, and what if they lose? Big fans will be in a bad mood, and you'd hate to have that be a downer at your wedding.

ekimberl · March 2010

Agreed - thanks!! I told him that it won't be showing. He is having a pity party right now, but he'll be over it by September.

crakd · March 2010

good girl! that's just crazy. LOL if he can't miss a football game for his own wedding, welllll.....

like you said, he'll be over it by september. i bet on the day, he'll forget all about it!

AutumnEnchantment · March 2010

I come from a good line of committed Ohio State fans but even if Ohio State is playing Michigan on my wedding date, people can choose to either not come or dvr/miss it. And your FI of all people? This is his WEDDING day...he can spare watching one GAME, no matter how important he feels it is. I'd be so offended.

WhatawagSBNy · March 2010

   Anyone who cannot wait to watch a DVR or tape of the game 6 to 8 hours later, or the next day, is seriously rude.

   The whole idea of saying your wedding is not worth even delaying - not missing, just delaying seeing a football game,  show these people have zero respect for you, and should not be invited to your wedding. Family or not. And the groom?

   Tape some soaps, or really stupid movie or talk show. Every time FI is In the mood, tell him, later, my show is more important to me than you are, and go watch in for a couple of hours.

See how he feels after a few times of been told, sorry but you are way down on my priority list right now.    Such nerve.

Lasairiona · March 2010

There will be other games but you only get married once. Record it at home and then he can watch it at his earliest convenience. People do this all the time. I would not have the game playing anywhere in the reception venue, bar or otherwise, unless you don't mind losing a portion of your guests who care more about the game than celebrating your wedding. If he places the priority of football over you, then you obviously have problems.

lalap69 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_fiance-wants-watch-football-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:7ab1253c-8bdb-4c2e-9674-165110c8ce4bPost:9eb73288-a6fe-4b27-907f-c9580c4f1268">Re: Fiance wants to watch football at the reception</a>:
[QUOTE]I would not have the DJ announce the scores. Some people choose to DVR the game and be surprised by the outcome when they watch the game later.
Posted by mbcdefg[/QUOTE]
This. Once I know the result, it kills my desire to watch it. And if I was attending your wedding during a game that was really important to me, I'd be trying my best to avoid being spoiled so that I could watch it later. (Either that or I'd be madly checking my phone every couple of minutes to see what the score was. It depends. :P)

lyndausvi · March 2010

in this day and age of Iphones and stuff they will be watching the game some how. There is no way to stop people from knowing the scores and taking about it. I was at a wedding in the fall where all the guys had their phones out watching the game. Yep techonolgy is that good now. Personally I think it's a good idea to give update on the game if you have that many die-hard fans..It might actually cut down on people trying to find out on their phones. Even you said it will only be during the first hour anyway.

Btw - I really do not think your FI will be watching. I know it sounds like he will now, but I promise he will be all caught up in moment to even remember there is even a game on.

ekimberl · March 2010

Thanks, all! I don't think my fiance really cares about himself watching the game... it's his friends that he is worried about. I think we'll have it on in the hotel bar (which I have zero problem with) but definitely not at the reception. I do think several of his friends and family will slip away to check scores, but we won't notice - or care. It is a big deal to them, but if they're choosing to be at the wedding, then it's clear what their priority is. Thanks!

ellen73 · March 2010

One of the two reception venues we liked had a Saturday opening in September. However, it was the first ND home game! So we are getting married on a Friday in the summer instead!

I was at a wedding during the World Series one year- the hall provided a small TV in the bar, and the DJ updated the score. It wasn't too distracting.

mishy112 · March 2010

Another point about showing the game or announcing the scores - will it put Fi and/or family in a sour mood if they lose, thus affecting the atmosphere at your wedding celebration? I agree, have them Tivo/DVR it and enjoy the only (hopefully) wedding day you'll have!

lyndausvi · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_fiance-wants-watch-football-reception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:5Discussion:7ab1253c-8bdb-4c2e-9674-165110c8ce4bPost:b9cb05aa-7394-458c-982d-abbeb221c2c9">Re: Fiance wants to watch football at the reception</a>:
[QUOTE]Another point about showing the game or announcing the scores - will it put Fi and/or family in a sour mood if they lose, thus affecting the atmosphere at your wedding celebration? I agree, have them Tivo/DVR it and enjoy the only (hopefully) wedding day you'll have!
Posted by mishy112[/QUOTE]

nice thought.. but in this day and age of technology.. they will know the score way before they will get a chance to see the game.. Just saying.. If wanted I can get minute by minute updates on any and all scores.. again technology is so good now that it would not matter. Everyone is going to know the score anyway.

melro1479 · March 2010

I was at a wedding last year where a "important" hockey game was on. They were showing the game on a TV in the bar area. All the guys hung out in this room and weren't even really enjoying the reception. The bride was furious! She went in and yelled for all of them to join the rest of us in the hall. I totally agree that he should either miss the game or just record it w/ TIVO/DVR.

w117seg · April 2010

Seriously... do not announce scores. As someone who owns a Tivo, I agree that it is truly awful to hear someone announce the final score just when you think you managed to keep the surprise waiting for you at home.

FalStar · April 2010

I 'd tell him to set up your television to record it, and watch it sometime AFTER the wedding day! Unless you and your FI are BOTH hardcore football (or any other sport/ event) fans, I'd say "this is our wedding reception, not a tailgate party."

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