Having a destination wedding at the Bellagio ~do I pay for guest airfare?????

Re: Having a destination wedding at the Bellagio ~do I pay for guest airfare?????

• Summer2011Bride member

  

  June 2012

  No, you aren't obligated to pay for anyone's trip. If it's something you can afford and a close friend or relative can't afford it, sure it is nice to offer to pay, but not required. Just realize when you have a DW, you may have a higher percentage of declines because it is pricey for guests to travel to a DW. Your wedding sounds lovely and you should go ahead with it, but just prepared for a higher number of declines than if you kept it local.

  
  
  
  
  

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• LibbyC730 member

  

  June 2012

  It's my impression that guests are responsible for airfare and accommodations.  If this is someone you really want included you could offer to help her with the costs or find someone willing to split a room with her.  A friend got married in the Virgin Islands last year, then hosted a very casual, low key, and amazingly fun reception back home about a month later...that could always be an option, too.  Good luck and don't feel pressured to try to help everyone make it!

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• Nikkilea34

  

  June 2012

  Thanks for the advise girls. We just got engaged a few weeks ago and 1st marriage for both of us . So we are confused on where to start, we just put down our down payment w the Bellgio . My fiancé does ALOT for this couple (use of his condo in FL, paid for there trip to KY derby ETC) i was hurt for my fiance when they said that said they probably can't go because of $$$. And she also assumed we would be booking everything for them . May spring for there airfare but then I just feel used and what about the other guests?? It's not fair to them either

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  June 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_having-a-destination-wedding-at-the-bellagio-do-i-pay-for-guest-airfare?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:445a5f61-fd37-4dca-aaa7-e48d039792d5Post:3fa997d1-83c1-4c0b-956a-efa3145ef6ab">Re: Having a destination wedding at the Bellagio ~do I pay for guest airfare?????</a>:
  [QUOTE]Thanks for the advise girls. We just got engaged a few weeks ago and 1st marriage for both of us . So we are confused on where to start, we just put down our down payment w the Bellgio . My fiancé does ALOT for this couple (use of his condo in FL, paid for there trip to KY derby ETC) <strong>i was hurt for my fiance when they said that said they probably can't go because of $$$. And she also assumed we would be booking everything for them . May spring for there airfare but then I just feel used and what about the other guests?? It's not fair to them either :(</strong>
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  It's fine to be disappointed that they can't go, but not being able to afford a DW is pretty common and you can't expect everyone to be able to go. Just because your FI has offered things like his condo or to pay for trips and has the means to do so doesn't mean they can automatically afford a trip to Vegas for your wedding. It shouldn't be tit for tat.
  
  If you want to pay their airfare, that's something that only needs to stay between you and them. The other guests don't even have to know. As I've learned from teaching, "fair" doesn't always mean equal. If you really want them there and they can't afford it, then you will either need to offer to pay for part or all of their trip or be OK with the fact that they won't be there.
  
  Now if you feel like they are just using you for your money/trips/condos, then that's a friendship issue and should be dealt with outside of the wedding entirely.

  
  
  
  
  

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• HobokensFury member

  

  June 2012

  One of the major things you give up by having a DW is having everyone you want there.  Many people can not afford to attend DWs and there is nothing anyone can do about it.

   
   

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• Nikkilea34

  

  June 2012

  Totally agree w u summer and Hoboken . If its just the 2 of us that's all that matters.... May just have to tell that couple that we are remodeling the condo this summer... They asked to come down for 4th of July LoL your right it's not for tit for tat ....

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