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Really long AW! ETA- Pro pic Sneak Peek!


Since I somewhat brought up what happened, I decided to go ahead and just tell the story since it might be a few days before I get a sneak peek. 

It mostly started with how SIL was a total crazy person with the shingles and got the whole family fighting.  MIL and I pushed that aside and were doing fine.  She decided to throw me a shower on Thursday night with family.  SIL and her partner were both there and made several comments to me that were rude and uncalled for (My favorite being her response to one of the ladies whose Grandson has chicken pox.  She looked at me and said "Oh, I must have given it to him, huh?").  Let it go because I didn't want any drama on the wedding day.

SIL could not get off of work early so she didn't come to the rehearsal dinner.  I am really glad that she didn't.  We had a fantastic time (rented out the banquet room at the hotel and brought in a bunch of pizza and BBQ).  We gave out our wedding party and parents presents and it was awesome. FIL gave a speech and part of it was about how he prayed since H and SIL were young that they would find the one they were meant to be with and that he knew that his prayers had been answered (oh yes, there were tears!).  It was a great night.

Wedding morning was awesome.  I woke up before my alarm in a great mood.  I wrote out a note for H to have when he got there (I stayed in a hotel room away from him the night before and he used it to get ready).  We were on time and doing great.  The salon was fantastic for the most part.  MIL and SIL showed up even though they were asked not to because my own mother wasn't invited.  I texted H and he took care of it and they left.  They also no longer needed to get the flowers because the florist had another delivery close and offered to do it for us at no charge. I think they took that as me being a jerk for some reason, too.  On the way to the venue I was worried because it was raining a bit but I tried not to let it get me down.

We got to the venue and started setting up.  The staff and owner were absolutely amazing and did most of it for us.  The venue was gorgeous and I was just in love with how it looked.  We had nothing go wrong at this point and we were on schedule.  I thought I just might pull off the "perfect day".  The weather ended up being amazing and we had no rain but it was overcast and the temp was much lower than anticipated.  It was gorgeous out (80's in July in AR isn't even close to ordinary). We got a few pictures before the ceremony but not as many as we hoped because guests got there a full hour early.  It was no big deal.  I started getting nervous around the 10 minute mark because I didn't want to trip or anything like that.  We went and lined up and it was ready to go!

Our wedding party went flawlessly and I am so happy with the songs we chose for that. It was great.  Our ring bearer is only 1 so his 8 year old sister walked with him and the flower girl.  He cried the whole way down but I just laughed it off.  He was adorable in his litte outfit.  My song came on and I had to stop for about 30 seconds to take some deep breaths.  I was sure I was going to lose it but I managed to get it back together and we went.  H started to tear up when he saw me and he looked HANDSOME! I still can't believe how lucky I am.  I stepped on the front of my dress and I got a bit nervous but I made it down the aisle and started the ceremony.  I was worried the whole time that I would cry like a baby but I actually held it up about 98% of the time.  When my sister saw me and my Dad gave me away, the three of us all teared up together, but that quickly subsided.  Our officiant was amazing and I loved our service.  H and I wrote our own vows and he as well as all of my bridal party were choked up.  I was too worried about comforting him so he could get through them that I didn't (although I read them when we got home and cried!). He loved my vows also.  We did a sand ceremony and our vase turned out really pretty.  I managed to get it home without moving it around and it's displayed in our living room now.  

Now for the drama!  About 5 minutes after the ceremony ended SIL walked up to me and tried to have a heart to heart about how I was family now.  I stopped her and said "I don't want to do this right now, but thank you for the well wishes".  With that I walked over to get more pictures and she stormed off. A few minutes later the guys were up getting some pictures when her partner approached me.  She started off congratulating me and then told me that I better never speak to SIL like that again and that I was a fuuucking biiiitch.  People around stepped in and escorted her away.  H decided then that we were just going to skip the pictures with them and take a break and head inside. 

 We went in and were served dinner.  The food was amazing and we were really happy.  There were snide comments being made around us but I just tried to brush it off.  We finished eating and then H's Aunt "K" came and asked us if we were doing more pictures.  We explained that we were taking a short break to eat and she stormed off.  She was already wasted and tripped outside flashing all of her glory to my BOSS so I was already irritated with her.  We made rounds to the tables, did dancing, did the cake cut (K was heckling us so we had to have the owner go and stop her so we could even finish) and then went out front for some pictures with the two of us.

SIL and her partner were out front and started screaming at us with the photographer and saying "Aren't you going to take pictures with us now?"  I responded with "No, we're not" and then K came running after us too.  It was absolutely the most embarassing thing of the night.  MIL came out and told H to "control me" and then they fought.  We had guests leaving left and right at this point.  

H went in and took 2-3 pictures with them but I was so disrespected that I opted to stay inside.  K came in shouting at me about how she was always nice to me and all kinds of crazy things.  I was escorted to the bridal suite because this was the point where I finally broke down crying.  I asked that the staff took care of it and asked her to leave but she happened to do that before we made it back down there.  The only ones left at this point were his parents.  MIL came up demanding to know when we could pack up presents (they were originally our designated people) but I said "we will just get them, thank you".  She shouted "Well fine!" and stormed off with FIL.  FIL apologized and was devastated (He told H on Thursday night that he was so excited because this is the only wedding that they'll ever have).  H and I sat outside talking but decided to try and salvage the night.

We went in and the place was cleared out.  No one wanted their kids around all of the fighting so we had the wedding party, the few spouses, my parents, and then a few others(3, I think) that stayed.  We had this huge place and a whole keg to finish so I told the DJ to put on the dance music and we would have some fun.  H and I danced around like goof balls and got so many fun pictures. My parents were really supportive and told him how much he meant to them and how they were so sorry.  We went out front and played with sparklers and took a few more pictures but ended the reception early.  

Overall, had SIL not done that, our day would have been pure perfection.  I keep going back and forth with joy and disappointment.  We didn't get all the pictures we wanted and on the drive home today I started crying thinking about it.  We have deleted SIL, her partner, MIL, and K from our Facebooks and are cutting off all contact with them for what they did. H feels like our day was ruined, but at least we had some good memories and our ceremony was great. I know at the end of the day we ended up married, but we sure did have a rough start.  We were so drained that we decided to go right back to the hotel instead of out with our friends and I was sad about that, too.  I'm just lucky that H stood up for me and we stayed strong and did not disagree the whole time about the drama.  It made me feel much better about the drama.  

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  • I'm sorry your SIL and family are so awful.  Unfortunately it's time to set boundaries that might hurt some feelings, but you and your H need to let them know where you both stand.  I'm happy that you and your husband are together in your position regarding his family.  Sometimes people and families just don't live up to expectations.

    Congratulations!!!  I love the picture with your BMs.
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  • The pics are great, Brandi---you looked stunning!
  • Brandi, I'm glad that at least you had a great ceremony. I'm so sorry your day was marred by that kind of stupidity. You looked beautiful.
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  • Thank you all!  We keep trying to talk about the good things and I keep looking at all of the photobooth pictures because there are some really good ones.  I really am happy to just be married and that I got the 20 minutes together during the ceremony and it went well.  I can't wait for the pro pics!!
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  • Brandi, you look beautiful. 

    Good call on cutting out the drama llama's from your life!  Remember only the good.
  • I would have punched that cuvnt right in the fucking face.  And if I was a guest there, I would have smashed her right in her mouth for daring to pull that ish on someones wedding day.  Im glad you guys cut them out.  Eff the mother effing noise.

    Your FIL sounds like a sweetheart though.

    You looked beautiful.  And dont feel bad about certain pictures etc.  All that matters at the end of the day is that you and H are married.
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  •  I second everything Blue said. And remember, they are the ones that look awful, not you. 

    Good for you and your H for getting back out there and finishing your reception with a bang!
  • It was an amazingly beautiful wedding, Brandi!
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  • edited July 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-long-aw?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:fa77ed8f-6ce5-4470-95d9-e01d3a6a9255Post:b4d47009-e3a9-4510-8646-ee9a72db1aac">Re: Really long AW! ETA- Pro pic Sneak Peek!</a>:
    [QUOTE]It was an amazingly beautiful wedding, Brandi!
    Posted by VeggieLove1022[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>Thank you!  I had fun dancing with you since you're so "limber". <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" /></div><div>
    </div><div>Thank you, Dot.  The one of us dancing (our hands/arms) is my favorite so far!</div>
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-long-aw?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:fa77ed8f-6ce5-4470-95d9-e01d3a6a9255Post:62ea90d4-c8c6-4dff-969d-c0f554111522">Re: Really long AW! ETA- Pro pic Sneak Peek!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Brandi how many people were there that left?
    Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]

    <div>I think 23? That includes us and the wedding party/my parents.  I just counted in my head and I dont' think I'm missing anyone. </div>
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_really-long-aw?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:fa77ed8f-6ce5-4470-95d9-e01d3a6a9255Post:a3f52e97-6a5f-4cf8-bd6d-6546e2770655">Re: Really long AW! ETA- Pro pic Sneak Peek!</a>:
    [QUOTE]No. Mean how many people left when the ish started?
    Posted by Dot Dash[/QUOTE]

    <div>We started with about 80 and were down to 23 so we lost about 57 people total.  I can't say that they all left just because of that (there were some grandparents and those with <2 year old children) but I think a good portion of them did.</div>
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  • Wow Brandi - your pictures are beautiful and you looked gorgeous.  Sorry again that you had to deal with so much drama on your wedding day though.  Those other people missed out on the fun part cause they didn't stick around.  Their loss.  Sounds like your nearest and dearest all stayed, and you probably got to spend more time with them than if there'd been another 50 people there wanting your attention all night too.
  • I'm kind of confused why you brushed SIL off when she was trying to congratulate you and welcome you to the family. Was it a sarcastic heart-to-heart or genuine? I would have been hurt if my SIL had done that. As for the other stuff, they all sound like asses.

    Your pics are great. I love the ones with your BMs.
  • Aww you looked fabulous!  You definitely can't tell from the pictures what was going on behind the scenes.  I feel bad for your FIL, it sounds like he's the only one that's not a crazy pants.
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    The pics look great, sorry your IL's are asshats though. I can totally get why you responded the way you did, then was not the time or the place, you had a schedule and didnt want to "Get into it". Freaking crazypants SIL.
  • In Response to Re:Really long AW! ETA Pro pic Sneak Peek!:[QUOTE]I'm kind of confused why you brushed SIL off when she was trying to congratulate you and welcome you to the family. Was it a sarcastic hearttoheart or genuine? I would have been hurt if my SIL had done that. As for the other stuff, they all sound like asses.Your pics are great. I love the ones with your BMs. Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

    It wasn't my intention to brush her off, I just didnt want to get into a long drawn out conversation in that moment. I can see what you're saying, but I tried to be polite about it and just say that we could do that later.
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  • Beautiful pics!!!  You guys are a lovely couple.  I am sorry about all of the drama at the reception, though.  Remember, it reflects badly on them, not you.  I feel bad for your FIL, since he has to live with that cray-cray.
  • Congrats Brandi. Pics are gorgeous! I really like your dress.
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  • I'm late as usual. LOVE your pictures Brandi. I reiterate everything everyone else is saying, so sorry you had to go through that on your wedding day.

    What rude behavior.
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  • Dude your ILs sound like asshats besides your FIL. You do looK FABULOUS though. Just bangin'! I agree with everything Blue said.

    I understand what you meant about not wanting to get into a long convo right at that moment. There were sooo many people stopping me when I was going from place to place on my wedding day and it was hard to kind of have to cut them off at some point, but ya gotta do it when you are that busy. It was a little insane of her to get that upset about it.
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  • Oh honey you look so amazing and beautiful and your H is so handsome!

    So sorry about all that bullshit.  Unbelievable.  Even with a family as crazy as mine can be people pretty much put that crap aside for the wedding.  I hope things can work out for everyone.  Sheesh
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  • I love the pics with you and your BM. Very Cute.
  • I can't say anything that hasn't already been said about your IL's (Blue said it best I think).  I will say that you looked absolutely gorgeous and congratulations!
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    Brandi, you look gorgeous.  I'm sorry all of that happened.  At least your ceremony was exactly what you wanted it to be and you ended up marrying your H.
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