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XP: Crazy relatives... but laughable!

Lisa50Lisa50 member
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With just 8 days to go, FI and I have been finalizing seating assignments today. What a riot!! We have gone from 8 to 7 tables -- fine. But that makes things a little more tricky for table placement. As some of you may be dealing with ... this friend doesn't want to be at a table next to another friend, that uncle doesn't want to sit at a table next to his brother, etc. C'mon people ... we only have 7 flippin' tables!

To quote Rodney King, "We can get along here. We can all get along."

That is all. As you were.
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  • Marrin713Marrin713 member
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    edited December 2011
    Everyone sat with whomever they pleased at our reception.  But I don't think we had any feuding family members or friends.
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  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_xp-craxy-relatives-but-laughable?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:91a69203-674e-477d-ba57-62f4e772875fPost:82aea17f-a1f8-4fdc-b366-21f55064074b">Re: XP: Craxy relatives... but laughable!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Everyone sat with whomever they pleased at our reception.  But I don't think we had any feuding family members or friends.
    Posted by Marrin713[/QUOTE]

    Lucky you!
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  • cmp1986cmp1986 member
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    edited December 2011
    This is probably what I'm most dreading. The only people I have to keep seperate is my dad and my aunt (mom's SIL). He said she borrowed money 20yrs ago and never gave it back to him. She says she never borrowed money. OMG!!! Get over it. So they are my only keep seperates. The only thing I'm really worried about is who will this person get along with? Then trying to make it work with only 10 per table. So yeah, not looking forward to this LOL.
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  • mybooboosmybooboos member
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    edited December 2011
    I think I'm looking at 8 tables, with only 1 newly divorced couple to keep separated, since they'll both be bringing their recently unveiled significant others. At least I'll have entertainment!!
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  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
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    edited December 2011
    OMG, I am also dreading this. Kevin's oldest brother is standing up as an attendant. He abandoned his first wife with 2 kids and moved to Colorado, where he has remarried and has a child. His Mom stays in touch with her former daughter in law, grandsons, and GREAT-grandkids. We are not inviting the kids, but we are inviting the ex-wife and her hubby. They don't even speak, LOL.

    Then there is the friend from high school I called yesterday to verify her address for her invitation (because I heard through a mutual friend she is being evicted after a divorce). Don't feel sorry for her, every one of her problems is her own doing, she is not a victim (although she always WANTS to PLAY THE VICTIM). This friend is a serious "chatty Cathy", in a phone conversation that lasted 70 minutes, I think I got about 10 minutes to tell her how sorry I was about her predicament, and about the wedding............she sucked up the other 60 minutes telling me all her problems with her divorce (in chronological order back 2 years), her cats (she's moving in with her mom who is 88, bringing with her about 4 cats, and her mom doesn't know they spray and doesn't want me to divulge that info to our mutual friend) ............ I have NO IDEA what table I am going to sit her at for my wedding. I don't dare alienate my new in-law family with this "Debbie-downer, chatty Cathy", and I'm sort of hoping we can fill 8 or 9 tables of eight people, with one table having 3 seats.........for this friend, our mutual friend and her hubby, and the vendors who will be eating, LOL. I honestly don't think she has the sense to just SHUT UP and not make it about her on our special day. Kevin does have a couple of friends who may be coming by themselves, and because "chatty Cathy" is really attractive, it might serve to put her at their table.

    I think I need to start doing table charts even before I sent my invites, just to work around the two issues I mentioned.
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  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_xp-craxy-relatives-but-laughable?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:91a69203-674e-477d-ba57-62f4e772875fPost:c68f50d3-ee0f-4aef-808d-d785ebd67857">Re: XP: Craxy relatives... but laughable!</a>:
    [QUOTE]OMG, I am also dreading this. Kevin's oldest brother is standing up as an attendant. He abandoned his first wife with 2 kids and moved to Colorado, where he has remarried and has a child. His Mom stays in touch with her former daughter in law, grandsons, and GREAT-grandkids. We are not inviting the kids, but we are inviting the ex-wife and her hubby. They don't even speak, LOL. Then there is the friend from high school I called yesterday to verify her address for her invitation (because I heard through a mutual friend she is being evicted after a divorce). Don't feel sorry for her, every one of her problems is her own doing, she is not a victim (although she always WANTS to PLAY THE VICTIM). This friend is a serious "chatty Cathy", in a phone conversation that lasted 70 minutes, I think I got about 10 minutes to tell her how sorry I was about her predicament, and about the wedding............she sucked up the other 60 minutes telling me all her problems with her divorce (in chronological order back 2 years), her cats (she's moving in with her mom who is 88, bringing with her about 4 cats, and her mom doesn't know they spray and doesn't want me to divulge that info to our mutual friend) ............ I have NO IDEA what table I am going to sit her at for my wedding. I don't dare alienate my new in-law family with this "Debbie-downer, chatty Cathy", and I'm sort of hoping we can fill 8 or 9 tables of eight people, with one table having 3 seats.........for this friend, our mutual friend and her hubby, and the vendors who will be eating, LOL. I honestly don't think she has the sense to just SHUT UP and not make it about her on our special day. Kevin does have a couple of friends who may be coming by themselves, and because "chatty Cathy" is really attractive, it might serve to put her at their table. I think I need to start doing table charts even before I sent my invites, just to work around the two issues I mentioned.
    Posted by Sue-n-Kevin[/QUOTE]

    That's not a bad idea.  I tell ya, I began a seating spreadsheet almost as soon as the guest list was finalized. Of course, it evolved once invitations were mailed and responses started coming in.  Some problems resolved themselves, for instance, one of FI's sisters is boycotting because another plans to attend (How old is she? 12? Ugh).  At least all of my family will show -- a couple just won't sit at adjacent tables. LOL!

    About two weeks ago, when all but 6 or so responses were received, I began the actual seating charts (assigned by tables only). I was able to finalize everything yesterday, when I successfully tracked down the last two non-responders. Whew!

    The best part??  It's done!  Good luck with Chatty Cathy/Debbie Downer. I feel your pain. *snort, snort*
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  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh my. Yet another reason why I am sooooo glad we didn't have anyone present at our wedding.  I must remember this for the next "I didn't have a real wedding because we ran off to the JOP" post. 
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  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_xp-craxy-relatives-but-laughable?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:91a69203-674e-477d-ba57-62f4e772875fPost:8ff6cc69-554d-4bd0-beaa-0d0bf9af9e2d">Re: XP: Craxy relatives... but laughable!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh my. Yet another reason why I am sooooo glad we didn't have anyone present at our wedding.  I must remember this for the next "I didn't have a real wedding because we ran off to the JOP" post. 
    Posted by handfast4me[/QUOTE]

    Absolutely!  We're okay with it though, in fact happy to have as many family and friends who want to be with us.  We figure, since we may not reach a milestone anniversary (in our minds, 25 or 50 years), this is the time to have the blow-out celebration.  It is laughable, though, octogenarians carrying grudges.  I bet they don't even remember why they're not talking!  ROTF LMAO!!

    But I respectfully disagree, you DID have a real wedding -- at the JOP's office.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

    ETA: My family.  Keeping the FUN in dysFUNctional!  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />
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  • Marrin713Marrin713 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_xp-craxy-relatives-but-laughable?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:91a69203-674e-477d-ba57-62f4e772875fPost:0e3ee4a5-b0ac-4eb0-9cfa-260796945b30">Re: XP: Craxy relatives... but laughable!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: XP: Craxy relatives... but laughable! : Lucky you!
    Posted by Lisa50[/QUOTE]

    Lisa, it'll be a MUCH different story when and if long time engaged son gets married.
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  • handfast4mehandfast4me member
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    edited December 2011

    Thanks Lisa, although it was really on the beach, by a notary/photographer, but it was real!  Ha!

    image Don't mess with the old dogs; age and treachery will always overcome youth and skill! BS and brilliance only come with age and experience.
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  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
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    edited December 2011
    Lisa - thought I would chime in here - we did a seating chart and had a few folks decide to relocate any way - it all worked out in the long run which is what any bride and groom can hope for. 

    Seven days to go.
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  • Jells2dot0Jells2dot0 mod
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    edited December 2011
    I did a seating chart for my first wedding. I had to separate each mom and dad, since both sides were divorced, and I also had to separate my mom from my dad's friends and vice versa. It was craziness, but the actual seating chart didn't take too much time and it probably saved me some grief. Of course, my dad threw a temper tantrum before we even got to the reception, so needless to say, my second marriage is not including any family or friends.

     







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  • lindaloulubbocklindaloulubbock
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    edited December 2011
    I hated seating chart.  Hated. Hated. Hated.

    But I had to have the seating chart to make sure none of the feuding parties ended up near each other, lol.  What a nightmare.
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  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_xp-craxy-relatives-but-laughable?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:91a69203-674e-477d-ba57-62f4e772875fPost:7d77ab94-fda3-442b-a420-b1e883caddb8">Re: XP: Crazy relatives... but laughable!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I hated seating chart.  Hated. Hated. Hated. But I had to have the seating chart to make sure none of the feuding parties ended up near each other, lol.  What a nightmare.
    Posted by lindaloulubbock[/QUOTE]

    Bahahaha ... I know the feeling.  But then, when FI's sister decided to boycott just b/c another sister with whom she's fighting is coming, I decided this is a joyful task.  At least our (mine and your) family feuders all show up. 

    FI says I need to let it go ... and I will.  But -- for this forum, and for now -- his sister is on my sh*t list.  BTW, my sh*t list only has one person on it.  So there! 

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  • mightyoakesmightyoakes member
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    edited December 2011
    We didn't do seating chart/cards, etc. It was great.
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