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Do we have to register

shanding4787shanding4787
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People keep asking my fiance and I where/when we are going to register...but we don't want to. We don't need/want anything, so is it ok if we just don't register at all?
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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    It's fine to not register. If you don't register, politely decline any showers people offer you. However, since some people obviously want to purchase physical gifts, you might register for upgrades to items you already have. Most people can use new towels, a fancier knife set, etc. This way, they have an idea of what you actually like. Not registering runs you the risk of getting physical gifts you don't need/want and can't return.


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  • kikirst33kikirst33 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_do-we-have-to-register?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:9a00f1a7-1e49-43a0-812e-f4d9a716de84Post:0785baf8-e8c5-4ee6-9bad-4e36bb270585">Do we have to register</a>:
    [QUOTE]People keep asking my fiance and I where/when we are going to register...but we don't want to. We don't need/want anything, so is it ok if we just don't register at all?
    Posted by shanding4787[/QUOTE]

    It is perfectly accetable to not register. My FI and I have not registered becuase we do not need anything nor do we need any "upgrades".

    I don't agree with the PP about not having any showers for you.  My family/friends are hosting some events for us (note i did not call them "showers") so that we can celebrate.  They all know that we do not expect gifts and they are letting the guests know that too. 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_do-we-have-to-register?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:34Discussion:9a00f1a7-1e49-43a0-812e-f4d9a716de84Post:102cfe6f-e069-4f17-bd0e-024fb556031b">Re: Do we have to register</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Do we have to register : It is perfectly accetable to not register. My FI and I have not registered becuase we do not need anything nor do we need any "upgrades".<strong> I don't agree with the PP about not having any showers for you.  My family/friends are hosting some events for us (note i did not call them "showers") so that we can celebrate.  They all know that we do not expect gifts and they are letting the guests know that too. 
    </strong>Posted by kikirst33[/QUOTE]

    So you don't agree that she should turn down any showers but then say you're not having any showers either. I don't understand your point.

    OP, it's fine not to register, but expect some random gifts if you don't. Some people, as a rule, never give cash. But most likely will.

    If it were me, I would do a small registry. People will understand what that means.
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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_do-we-have-to-register?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:9a00f1a7-1e49-43a0-812e-f4d9a716de84Post:102cfe6f-e069-4f17-bd0e-024fb556031b">Re: Do we have to register</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Do we have to register : It is perfectly accetable to not register. My FI and I have not registered becuase we do not need anything nor do we need any "upgrades". <strong>I don't agree with the PP about not having any showers for you.  My family/friends are hosting some events for us (note i did not call them "showers") so that we can celebrate.  They all know that we do not expect gifts and they are letting the guests know that too. </strong>
    Posted by kikirst33[/QUOTE]

    This isn't a shower, though, so my advice to OP still stands. A shower is meant to "shower" the bride with gifts--physical gifts, which is why everyone here tells brides that do not register that they should not have showers. Showers are not for money or gift cards, and you certainly don't host a shower and then tell people to not bring gifts.

    If you want to have get-togethers with friends and family to hang out and party, by all means go for it. But that is not comparable to a shower at all.


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  • sparkles776sparkles776 member
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    I would make a small registry, a PP is right, people will get the hint from that. If you dont create a small registry, you will end up with some random stuff that you most likely will not be able to return.
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