Anyone else feel weird having a shower?

Re: Anyone else feel weird having a shower?

• meganb1977 member

  

  January 2012

  No need to be a slave to tradition and follow the ones that don't work for you.  I'm not comfortable having a shower either.  All the family on my side is out of town and wouldn't be able to come, and my best friend is also out of town and wouldn't be able to come.  So the people I would want to see most, wouldn't be there.  I'm also established in my home and don't really need anything anyway so I'm afraid of ending up with a bunch of junky picture frames and multiple toasting flutes and cake servers and other things that I didn't want!

  Whoever said it was supposed to be happily ever after is a big fat liar.

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• kak2m4

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  I don't think it's weird not to have one.  If it doesn't work for you, you don't have to do it! :-)
  
  I think a lot of people will ask you about it, though, and may try to pressure you to have one.  Just tell them that you feel like you don't need anything, but I agree with PP that people are going to get you gifts anyway...I don't know...sorry I'm not much help!!

  

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• Simply Fated member

  

  January 2012

  You don't gave to follow tradition just for tradition sake.

  
  

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• kateguess22 member

  

  January 2012

  I'm not planning on having a shower either. To me, (and just my opinion) it is so outdated. My fiance and I are 28 years old. We don't need to have all of our friends and family buy gifts for us and I would prefer to have a girls day instead of a gift party.

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• ShakeUpTampa member

  

  January 2012

  I had mine today..I found it weird to figure out WHERE to sit so I jumped tables a bit...my immediate family sat at one, his at another, and my girlfriends at another...his Aunt and Grandmother gave me lingerie!! I about died. (And I used to manage a Fredericks) but this was just weird.
  
  I was just thankful I got no duplicates so no akwardness there. I did feel shy and some photos came out pretty bad cause I have a quick face reaction lol. Just let it go by and have fun. To mingle and have fun we did two games (one was bridal bingo)

  Nichole Tampa, FL

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• CrayCrayWedCorp

  

  January 2012

  Yes! And I had requests from both my friends and my mothers' friends. They both took a kind of different approach which may or may not help you, depending on the situation. I also said, that sounds lovely, and thank you for the gesture, but I really don't need anything. But both still wanted to do something for me. So instead, my mothers' friends asked if they could host the morning after brunch, after the reception. (which I graciously accepted.). My friends threw a "shower" anyhow, which was a lovely casual brunch with just my friends, and instead of gifts from my registry, they all gave me handmade trinkets or sentiments, or just small tokens that were appreciations of our friendship. It was so incredibly touching.

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• JennluvsPaul member

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  CrayCrayWedCorp has the right idea. May I add that if the person pushing to host the shower is someone you are close to and has other skills, perhaps you can give them a job to do so they 1) feel involved, and 2) forget about the shower. Some examples could be to host the brunch, book the restaurant for the rehearsal dinner, or arrange a time to have lunch with that person (and they may inisist on treating you).
  
  Some people will understand your wishes. Others have an obessive-compulsive need to tackle projects (hosting a party, gift-giving, etc.) Find the right balance.

  
  

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