I'm very old fashioned in some ways, particularly when it comes to my family's traditions. I have heard all kinds of advice against registering for china, because of the cost, etc. I come from family that not only entertains a lot, it is mostly formal entertaining for large groups. I plan on registering for 12 place settings for everyday dishware, but I'm not interested in registering for any of the china patterns I have seen. Because I am a sucker for tradition, what I really want is for one of my matronly aunts, or even my grandmother, to gift me a china set they already own. But I'm not sure how to go about making this known. I feel like it's in poor taste to approach my grandmother about this (she's an elderly woman, but she's not dead yet... I don't want her to feel like I'm trying to push her into the grave for her china). And my two aunts who would be most likely to accommodate this request both have daughters of their own. Is this a fool's errand? Is there a way I tactfully tell my older relatives that I would rather have family heirlooms than brand new Limoges?