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Cute ideas with Bridal Party?

Aubreysmommy1Aubreysmommy1
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I have seven amazing bridemaids and would love any suggestions or ideas on fun things to do for my bridesmaids throughout my weding planning. I decided to start things off with a Bridesmaids meet n greet where I will have everyone over for food and drinks and cap the evening off with a showing of the movie Bridesmaids.I will not have much money to spend, as we are saving for a wedding, but I would really love to make this experience extra special and memorable not just for me but for them too. Cute things to do through facebook, texting, get togethers, anything super craftsy...... ideas anyone? Thanks!

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  • AutumnFairAutumnFair member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_cute-ideas-bridal-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:0b10cfdb-3a25-493c-b8bb-ec52603cbb97Post:ed22804d-23e3-43ba-b3b9-3b40e9ecc109">Cute ideas with Bridal Party?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have seven amazing bridemaids and would love any suggestions or ideas on fun things to do for my bridesmaids throughout my weding planning. I decided to start things off with a Bridesmaids meet n greet where I will have everyone over for food and drinks and cap the evening off with a showing of the movie Bridesmaids.I will not have much money to spend, as we are saving for a wedding, but I would really love to make this experience extra special and memorable not just for me but for them too. Cute things to do through facebook, texting, get togethers, anything super craftsy...... ideas anyone? Thanks!
    Posted by Aubreysmommy1[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Though you would like to make it "special" for them by trying to do stuff the</div><div> real truth is that it is not needed, and a good amount of time not wanted. These girls don't need to be friends and you trying to devise some party or activity for them to do so will probably make it really awkward for some of them. Remember no one is really excited as you when it comes to your wedding.</div><div>
    </div><div>The best thing you can do is just see which ones actually like wedding stuff and with that always let them be the one to ask how your wedding stuff is going. When you have some kind of DIY project leave it  as an open invitation in which you say "hey girls, if anyone would like to help me with X project we will be at this person's house at Y time. I will bring Pizza and snacks!" </div><div>
    </div><div>Another good thing to do is just be an understanding friend and Bride. Ask your BMs their budgets before looking at BM dresses. Don't expect anything from them besides being at your wedding in their attire and I can bet they will really enjoy your wedding "experience". </div>
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  • Aubreysmommy1Aubreysmommy1
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    edited December 2011
    Sorry, I should have specified.... They all know eachother, I just used the term meet and greet because it would be the first time we all got together as a bridal party :) I already know it's not necessary to do these things, but I have the time and it would really make me happy. So ideas anyone?
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  • vsgalvsgal member
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    edited December 2011
    Honestly, I would still stay away from it.  Your bridal party, while they love you dearly, do not  care about your wedding as much as you do.  I was in a wedding where the bride did the same thing.  She wanted us all to get together once a month or so and do something.  One night we ordered a pizza, drank wine and watched some wedding flicks.  One night we went out to dinner and brainstormed playlists for the wedding.  One night we had a sleepover and played with makeup and hair.   It was one thing after another.  It was the longest 12 months of my life. By the end of the second group thing we were so over everything wedding. I cringed every time she called or sent an email because I knew it was going to be about a thing that she wanted all of us to do.  These events did not include dress selection outings, showers and bach party.  And I was not the only one.  Everyone in the bridal party was getting extremely burned out.  I knew everyone in the party, but to be truthful, I did not want to hang out every month and do a bonding thing.  I had my own social calendar that filled up fast.  
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  • Aubreysmommy1Aubreysmommy1
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    edited December 2011
    Once a month get togethers are awful! I was only planning on doing the meet and greet ( we are all friends), wedding shower, and bachloretter party. Those are the only events we will actually get together for. That is why in my original post I had said cute things to do through facebook, texting, or artsy crafty things I could do as well. I think that's awful to force friends to get together throughout the wedding planning just because I am excited. Here's an example of the ideas I am looking for.... a friend of mine, after she had chosen her bridesmaids, sent us all a "Top ten reasons why you are my bridesmaid" list through facebook. It was so cute, one of the reasons was , "Someone has to help me figure out how to go to the bathroom in a ball gown".  Another one of my friends did something similar where once a month, she texted us all one reason why she loved us so much. I saw on a website, this other woman who made acordian chain paperdolls and made each one into one of her bridesmaids and put them into the thank you cards she passed out at her rehearsal dinner. So once again please, I would really love some great ideas like these ones. I have the time, I want to do it, my bridesmaids and I are really close, and  we have all done these types of things for eachothers weddings and have LOVED it. Ideas anyone?
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  • AutumnFairAutumnFair member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for clearing that up. But still, I have nothing because I have never been in a wedding where the Bride did this. I mean I chat with the Bride about her wedding stuff on facebook, but I never seen anything like you are describing and I did enjoy most of my friend's wedding planning. I know you have the time to do/create something and want to do it for your BMs letting them know how much you care about them, but I just never seen this done so I have no idea what you can possibiliy do besides giving them a heart felt card/note. I guess if you hunt some wedding blogs you might find something.
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  • vsgalvsgal member
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    edited December 2011
    I understand what you saying about not getting together all the time as in my case.  That being said, even facebook messages and filling out lists and texting wedding stuff all the time is still overwhelming and can get old.  They feel special being part of the party. Don't overdo it.  If you want to do something for them, take them out to dinner individually.  Appreciation dillutes when you are in a group.  

    If you are dead set on doing this, google for some ideas.  You already listed two, which  will be plenty if not too many.
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  • hvansadershvansaders
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    edited December 2011

    This sounds like a lot and it does sound overwhelming, even if you and your bms enjoy doing things like this.  My advice, since it sounds like you are all very close and in the same circle of friends, is to go out and just have fun!! Planning a wedding, for me, has been one of the most stressful things so far and I would love nothing more than to go out and have some fun with friends/bms.

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  • coreylynn19coreylynn19
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    edited December 2011
    I absolutely love the ideas that you have come up with (or I should say your friends have come up with!) so far!  I think the girls night in with the Bridesmaids movie is so cute (I wish my girls lived closer so I could steal that idea!).  When I asked the girls I created cards with a cutout of the bridesmaids dress that i loved on it and on the back of the card I told them each how much they meant to me and how special they are!  That was my peak of cute ideas though, so let me know if you find anymore!!!  Don't listen to all the naysayers about this, I think if you want to tell your friends how much they mean to you, then why not do it!?!? :)  Good luck with planning and having a ton of fun with your girls!!
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  • melissaswed2013melissaswed2013 member
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    edited December 2011
    For my daughters wedding we are planning a girls weekend.  She is in college(with 3) of the bm's about 4 hours from us so the other bm's and myself are going to meet up with her and rent a hotel room.  Shop for bm's dresses and make fun flip flops for the girls to wear to reception.  I think you should have a fun night if that's what you and your friends like to do.  My daughter and her friends are excited about their weekend. Google your heart out.  I also love the 10 reasons why list.  Just have fun!!
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