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Uninvited Guests

nicole1672nicole1672
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I have a similar question to that of a recent post.  My mom asked me if she could invite a few of my sister's friends.  Not her friends, but my sister's.  To JUST the reception.  The problem is, I'm not even friends with them, one of the guys is an alcoholic trouble-maker and another one of the guys I used to sort of date.  It would be inappropriate for him to be there, is what I'm getting at.  I explained this reasoning to my mom, and besides that, we're pretty much over capacity as it is.  BUT I have a bad feeling that come the night of my wedding, they're going to show up.  Since she doesn't understand why they can't show up, she won't listen when I say no.  How do I handle the situation if they end up at my reception?  I'm worried it would be rude to ask them to leave, but who comes to a wedding clearly uninvited?!  Ugh.  This coupled with my other posts...we should have eloped. haha
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  • MissyB1313MissyB1313
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    This is why we have a "back up" plan with the groomsmen and some of Fi's family. (They're all big intimidating guys.). We were worried my estranged father might show up, uninvited, or any of his family. BM especially will be on alert for some of the people... and should they show up, will be asked to leave by either BM or another GM. Then there's no worrying for us, and if it did happen, we might not even find out until after the reception.

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  • brittneyh4brittneyh4
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    Is your mom paying for the wedding? Also, have you explained that you have dated one of the guys and how you don't feel comfortable with him being there?? I would just flat say no, and tell your sister no as well, especially if you're at capacity. I, too, have a few friends working as security in case a few troublemakers try to show up.
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  • nicole1672nicole1672
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    My mom is contributing money, yes...but not in a major way.  I've explained why I feel it's inappropriate for her to tell them to show up.  The thing is, no matter what I say or how I say it she's probably going to do it anyway.  I will just have to kick them out I guess.

    The country club we're having the reception at will not be closed for my event, so technically I suppose people can "crash" the party.  Although, like I said, it takes a certain kind of person to pull that amount of rudeness off.
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  • MoonlightSilverMoonlightSilver member
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    Can you play it off on your venue? Say that you're at capacity or they would charge you an obscene amount if these people show up, so your mom understands the seriousness?

    In all honesty, hopefully you'll be having such a wonderful time that you wont even notice if someone crashes. If you have a DOC or someone from the venue coordinating, you might let them know who these people are, and that person could kick them out if they show up. 
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  • lilmiss_34lilmiss_34 member
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    That is so unacceptable. This is a wedding, not a night for sister to go partying with her friends. She should enjoy the company of your guests, at your wedding, and can go party with these people the next weekend. Why does she have to see these specific people on this night.... your wedding. It's weird.
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