WDYT?

MrsMyrtle · June 2010

What do you think about naming a kid after a deceased family member? H thinks it's morbid. I think it's a nice way to honor someone. I'm named after my great-aunt, who died when my mom was just a kid, and I've always thought it was nice.

Thoughts?

6fsn · June 2010

I don't see a problem with it.

Mrs.Thistletwat · June 2010

It's a Jewish tradition. You never name a child after a living relative (it would put the evil eye on both the child and the relative) but naming the child after a deceased family member is a huge honor.

H is named for his grandfather. He has the same Hebrew name as him. I'm named for my paternal great-great-grandmother and my paternal great-grandfather.

DG1 · June 2010

Dex's middle name is after my late grandmother. So I guess I'm cool with it.

I can see weirdness depending on who the deceased is and the circumstances of the death, though. But as commonly done? not a big deal.

hmonkey · June 2010

i think it's fine.

i think it's weirder to name the child after someone you don't even know coughdionnequintupletscough.

jojobrn · June 2010

Totally ok with it. My niece is named after her great-great grandmother, both first and middle names. Some of the names we like for future kids are family names.

Paulo's Menina Bela · June 2010

I don't think it's strange. It's honoring a person's memory. If we have a boy we're naming him after H's grandfather.

arbolita · June 2010

I think it's a nice tribute, but there are certain circumstances where it's not the best idea. Mr Arb's little brother died in a car accident, and three years later his older brother named his son after him. MIL still had not gotten over the death of her son yet, and I've never once heard her refer to him by his first name - she always uses his middle name or a nickname.

MinM · June 2010

I like the idea.

My middle name was the same as my grandmother, who was alive when I was born. I guess I got the evil eye on me. That would explain a lot.

MrsMyrtle · June 2010

Oh, hmo... *snicker*

And my great-aunt actually committed suicide. I'll admit I was a little taken aback when I found out.

6fsn · June 2010

oooooohhhhh Hmo went there.

**O-Face** · June 2010

Well, all people die eventually. So if you're named after a family member...you know.

hmonkey · June 2010

why wouldn't i go there?

you know ass atty is going to name any child she has "dj am" and it's just as weird.

it's one thing to name a child after someone you don't know but you admire (like thomas jefferson) but it's quite another to name a child after someone you just don't know. i hardly think carrann admired the dionne quintuplets; she just thought their story was so sad. at best, she had asperger's for them.

Cant_wait! · June 2010

I don't think it's weird.
Also, all of my neices and nephews are named after someone who is still alive. I find this a little annoying as we have three Jessicas and Three Michelles. And one Michelle Jessica who goes by Jessica. And one of my nieces (who is named after me) has two middle names because she was to be thier last kid and they wanted to be sure to honor all four of their siblings, since the first two kids were named after other siblings.
So I'm pretty sure my family IS an evil eye.

Mrs.Thistletwat · June 2010

meh. Tie a red string on one of the legs of your bed. you'll be fine

**O-Face** · June 2010

The only deceased or family members that I have that are old enough have names that show.

Dorothy
Ruth
Opal
Lucy

Yep.

arbolita · June 2010

When I was born I was the 4th Theresa. We also now have 4 Josephs. Bet you can't guess what my heritage is.

Wonderw1fe · June 2010

The only time I think it's weird is when a couple has a child, the child dies, and then the couple has another child and give it the same name as the dead child. That is weird. I don't know anyone like this IRL, but I think it happened in some bad 70's horror movie.

MrsMyrtle · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wdyt-33?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:7220e254-c95c-49f9-806a-b8f2d17af397Post:2acf704f-ad5c-4122-850d-7a534a693ab4">Re: WDYT?</a>:
[QUOTE] i hardly think carrann admired the dionne quintuplets; she just thought their story was so sad. at best, she had asperger's for them.
Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]

<div>I can't wait to see which quint she names her next kid after. I'm betting on Marie for a girl, or Dionne for a boy.</div>

Cant_wait! · June 2010

Arb-is it Irish? Because I can't even count the Joseph's in my family.

eta: Also Patrick. We have three Patricks.

**O-Face** · June 2010

Ww, we did that with a dog, but I don't think that counts.

hmonkey · June 2010

i will say -- i had a friend who had a brother who died. she always planned to name her child after her beloved brother, and was so upset when her cousin had a kid first and namejacked her, which i thought was totally wrong. she didn't want her kid to have a cousin with the same exact name, so she ended up naming the kid something similar.

i thought it was wrong because she always made her wishes known, and she had the blessing of her parents to honor their son and her brother that way, and cousin comes out of nowhere to jack the name. cousin wasn't even particularly close to the family.

arbolita · June 2010

Nope, we are a bunch of very loud Italians.

jojobrn · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wdyt-33?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:7220e254-c95c-49f9-806a-b8f2d17af397Post:1213bade-25ae-4aae-a3ab-4ec4a2400e5f">Re: WDYT?</a>:
[QUOTE]When I was born I was the 4th Theresa. We also now have 4 Josephs. Bet you can't guess what my heritage is.
Posted by arbolita[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm going with Italian.</div>

**O-Face** · June 2010

hmo, my group of friends has one friend who passed away a few years ago. We'll all have sons with the same middle name, most likely.

HookaPants · June 2010

I see no issue with it. I would discuss it with any living children they had before making the final decision.

hmonkey · June 2010

oface, i remember you talking about him. i am glad he was so loved that he will be honored this way by so many.

Butter Cookie · June 2010

There are a bajillion Josephs in our family.

My family is Scottish.

Paulo's Menina Bela · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wdyt-33?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:7220e254-c95c-49f9-806a-b8f2d17af397Post:a30cf8c1-5eab-4872-a04c-2eb50a106f40">Re: WDYT?</a>:
[QUOTE]Nope, we are a bunch of very loud Italians.
Posted by arbolita[/QUOTE]

Oh, I was going to guess Portuguese. Everybody's named after a saint or relative or both. My side of the family didn't follow the namesake tradtion with the exception of my Aunts all being named Maria [Middle Name].

TheDuckis · June 2010

My hypothetical daughter is being named after my grandparents, whether they're alive or not by the time I get around to having kids. I think it's a nice honor.

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