One of my BMs is already married, and I was her bridesmaid. When I was in her wedding, the bridesmaid dress was $120, and I didn't complain about the price at all, even though money was a little tight at the time. I just smiled and was supportive, because I thought that's what BMs were supposed to do. BUT, now she's one of my bridesmaids, and I'm getting a lot of static from her about the color of the dress, the style of the shoes, the cost of the dress (even though it's less expensive than the one I had to buy was), and stuff that has no bearing on her whatsoever, like my dress, the reception decoration, etc. I chose her as a bridesmaid because she's one of my friend that lives close, and I was excited to have her help in shopping for some of this stuff, but it seems like she doesn't like anything i'm picking. I tried subtly joking/complaining about her attitude the last time we went, saying "I thought bridesmaids were supposed to be supportive!" with a smile on my face and laughing a little, so as not to make it seem like I was mad at her, and see if she got the hint. She came back with "I'm Puerto Rican, I don't hid my opinions!" I haven't really talked with her since, which has been a couple weeks. We work completely different schedules, so this isn't all that unusual. But I'm really almost to the point of saying, "If you don't like it, you don't have to be involved," and replacing her with my FH's sister instead. It was originally a tough decision between the two anyway, and I know his sister would be thrilled to be in the WP, but he has so many really good friends that we decided to cut it off at 4 each. What do I do? I'm afraid if I let her know how much this really bothers me, she'll just up and leave the WP anyway, because that's kind of how she is. But she's had me in tears doubting some of my choices, and I really feel like that's not right!
The proud new Mrs. Frescoln