so i've been mia a while hi all!! i missed you.
So my vent portion of this and real reason for the post is that i'm moody with the army.
preamble to frustraition: We chose to wait to have the wedding already because of a pcs, deployment and 3 training classes, 3 other family weddings, 2 prebooked family vacations of our immidiate families (really) all in the last 6 months. We also have another wedding and a graduation taking up the only 2 other weekends through december of this year we could really have anything. I am also a full time student and wont have my wedding in the middle of a quarter - i'd be to stressed.
The date we had picked now falls within a month of FI's (supposed) graduation from his new program (if it goes right its within about a week before - if an aircraft gets grounded it would most likely be about 1-2 months before), which means he will not be able to get off or if he could he would only get a one-two day pass and would be stressing because it would be right around all his final tests and we woudl have to get him the distance from Rucker to nola. Because of this we have decided it is probably best to move the wedding. (fumes)
I'm not upset or frantic, but I am frustrated because the only leave he is guaranteed is holidays (christmas, thanksgiving, 4th) and we didn't want to have a wedding in those brackets because we don't want to take away from family time. Guess I will be anyway - ehhh. We know pretty much exactly what we want and I know booking things will be easy for us regardless of the time of year (go figure) except the 4th - there is no way we can ever book our venue that week. I also am doing the paper products all myself, which means I could have them all out easy, so it is really more the frustration you ladies will understand from having your life rearranged every five seconds by uncontrollable factors.
Second part of vent is also a happy moment. One of the groomsmen is now due to start the flight program as well and will be moving to rucker near FI soon. I am so excited for him!!! Yet, now that means if we want him there I have to plan around that as well. I know we could just not have him or others there, but it is a bummer to have to consider it when it wasn't an issue with our original date. The holiday idea will keep him able to come as well.
If anyone has advice or ideas i'd be happy to hear it/them. Our new in the works plan is first week in december because fi's commander says they never fly weekends especially around that time and if we sped up our time table we could have it next december because it will be in a break for my school work (I have off a month and a half between quarters and that's about in the middle of it). We also considered weekend after thanksgiving but there is a huge event here in nola then not to mention that I hate the idea of asking people to fly here so close to thanksgiving (especially wedding party). I know we could just go get a JOP, but for religious/family reasons we really don't want to do that. There isn't any benefit for us to JOP because fi wont get any benefits from it (he's living on post so he wont get any BAH) and we don't need me on his orders for a pcs for at least 2 years. So until the benefit outweighs what we want we aren't really considering it.
thanks for letting me vent
I feel better. I just hate pushing it on FI because he already felt horrible when I did the math and I don't want to go to my family until i'm a little less annoyed since going to them with a holiday wedding will cause problems as far as convenience regardless of the year, so I just needed a group that wouldn't be all omg your dreams are crushed how will you survive, ugh you can't do that b/c aunt bobby sues christmas party is that day every year for the past 50 years so if you do that you need to invite everyone that goes to the party (rolls eyes), or apologize every time i try to problem solve.