Hi everyone,
I am getting married March 25, 2013, on our 8 year anniversary. I think just about everything in our wedding is going to be a little different then what most people would expect. We are getting married on a Monday and having a very small, short, intimate wedding. There will be 24 people including my future husband and I, we are having a dinner with a quick ceremony right before.
The next part is just a long vent, it has no other purpose then for me to get this out without having to make my future husband listen to me complaining again. There is no question or anything and I won't feel bad if you don't read it, like I would know if you read it anyways.
My vent is all about my mother, she is not happy and she has made this well known.
She upset that it is not going to be held in a church, she is upset about the venue, the food, the possibility that there may not be flowers.
Her favorite part to hate is the guest list, as I said before very small 24 people. Future husband and I, my parents, his parents, my siblings and their dates, his siblings and their dates, both of our nephews. My Nan and Pop, my other Pop and my aunt, another aunt and her date; Matt is also inviting his uncle and his date, since he doesn't have any grandparents left. Moms upset because its not nice of me not to invite the rest of her siblings there is only another 3 and my dad only has 2 siblings who I should invite. I try to gently remind her that Matt parents also have about a dozen siblings and then I would have to invite all of them too and that we are trying to keep it very small. Mom thinks its only about money (though I have tried to explain to her that not the only reason) her solution is I should invite everyone and just tell them if they want to come they have to pay for their own dinner... WTF???
While its great not to have to spend a fortune on a reception for a 100+ guests, money is not even the main reason why these people are not being invited. I have a few anxiety issues, a big one dealing with social anxiety and I don't need that extra stress. I would like to enjoy my wedding which I know will not happen if its a large production, I don't even enjoy going to other peoples wedding there is just way to many people and its awkward. Also I HATE one of moms sisters, just guessing but probably because she loved to insult me to my face, complain about my family and basically tell everyone how much better she and her perfect (stupid, slutty, booze loving) children are then everyone else. Then there is a couple of aunts and uncles I just don't care for and others that I don't speak to (through they live within a 20 minute drive) so I just don't see any point to invite them.
I find myself regretting planning anything, like we should have just gone and done it ourselves. Now what really makes me sad is mom would rather I cancel our current plans and that I just get married when we leave the country to go on our honeymoon. It hurts that my own mother would rather not have the chance to be there when I get married then have to put up with the fact I am not having the wedding she wants me too. And yes I am quite sure that certain family members are talking about how they are not invited, but I told mom if anyone asks her about it she can just tell them to call me about it.
Reading this I feel like mom might be being shown in a bad light, I know she is trying she went to look at dresses with me, she wants to pay for everything, she is making us wine because she can't buy what she wants us to have even though I told her I don't want it and she's not permitted to bring it into the venue, she keeps picking out thing shes going to get as favors, etc. She has just also been very vocal on what we are doing wrong and how she wants things to be.
Sorry again I know its long and if anyone got this far thank you, I just needed some place to vent because I know listening to this upsets Matt too.