Double Post * Also In Etiquette
First, My FI and I are paying for everything ourselfs. We know our familys have no money, we have more than they do and they know that we have a bit in savings.
I asked my mom who on her side to invite, she starts naming people who I don't know (her friends lifetime) says that she has sent her kids gifts they probably won't show but will send nice gifts. I told her that that isn't right, she says "They expect an invitation we are lifelong friends, we are old school and thats how we do it it would be rude not to invite them" I understand where she is coming from but it just doesn't seem right to me?
She's pretty upset that I told her I might not send them one. I'm not mad or upset that she is trying to add people, I'm just trying to grasp this concept, and keep our bill small (but if they aren't going to show, which she guarentees they won't we are a couple states away this won't matter the money issue.)
On the other side of the family (My dad's) his family lives even further away, he has 2 brothers and a sister, all married and have tons of kids. I don't talk to any of them at all, but he said they probably expect a invite too. One already asked for one over facebook the moment I was engaged. Only him, my grandma (his mom) and my sister and her boyfriend(maybe boyfriend, he probably wont come) I know for sure will be here without a doubt.
How do I handle his side of the family and the kids?
Sorry so long, Thank you!
