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Seriously WTF!!! My 1st Vent!!!

dawnbeattydawnbeatty
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in California-Los Angeles
OMG I don't think I can take this...
Our RSVP date was 3 weeks ago - May 15.
We are getting married in 2 days!!  Do you hear me 2 days!!!
I got an email today from someone we sent an invitation to but NEVER heard back from and she had the nerve to say:

Are you ready??  How are things going?? Do you need help with anything??

Did you add extra space for people like us who did not RSVP??  We've been so busy, that I forgot to send back my card!! Were the girls invited too?? 

I hope you get this email, we've talked about this day for so long, it would be so great to be able to share with you guys.  Let me know.

I'm sooo pissed - I'm not even going to respond.  FI said don't respond either.  If she comes up there and brings her kids (who weren't invited) I'm going to tell my DOC not to seat her cause she didn't RSVP.

I mean seriously - we get married in 2 days!!!!  And who in the hell adds EXTRA SPACE for dumb a**es who don't RSVP.

I know I need to calm down.  I feel somewhat better but not much.
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Re: Seriously WTF!!! My 1st Vent!!!

  • girliegirlralgirliegirlral
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    edited December 2011
    Did you not try and contact the people who never RSVP'd?  Isn't that one of the reasons to request an early RSVP date, to not only give the venue an accurate headcount but to contact those that never responded...
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    edited December 2011
    You poor thing.  I would add her in but not her kids.  Is she a friend of the family?  Maybe you can talk to someone who talk to her regularly and mention that you have a seat saved for just her.  I know that you're frustrated but it will be a really awkward situation when she shows up (and it sounds like she's going to show up wether you respond to her email or not).

    But on the brighter side...

    YOU'RE GETTING MARRIED IN TWO DAYS!!!!!!!
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  • dawnbeattydawnbeatty
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    edited December 2011

    She is actually one of our friends - but she is so whishy washy.  We invited her and her husband.  But I'm not going to worry about it.  She should know better.  I didn't try to contact her when she didn't RSVP to our wedding because we were already way over the headcount we wanted to be and because I tried to contact her when she didn't RSVP to my bridal shower - but got no response.  So I was like that is cool.  There is no way I'm going to worry about her.  She needs to go back and look at her card and see that her invite was for 2 not 4 - if she shows up - not going to get seated - she should understand and if not - I can't worry about it.  Thank God my out of office was turned on - so when she sent me an email she got one returned to her that said I would be out of the office until June 9th.

    My Planning Bio - updated 4/19/10
    Our Wedding Teasers
    imageWedding Countdown Ticker
    243 invited image 170 Said YES image 45 Can't party US image 28 Haven't heard from image Invitations sent out on 4/6/10 - Our RSVP date is 5/15/10 Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • Mellie35Mellie35 member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I totally understand why you are upset. It sucks, it really does. But, the reality is - that some people do forget to send the RSVP back.

    I would not suggest ignoring her. I would contact her and tell her what your decision is, whether she is welcome or not. You really do not want to deal with any potential drama on the big day. Do whatever you can to avoid it.
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  • Lnc0185Lnc0185
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    edited December 2011
    That is soooo annoying!  RSVP drama is so lame!
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  • xxquemirasxxxxquemirasxx
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    AWWWW Dawn, that's terrible! Breathe in..breather out...drinks?!Wink

    I think she is going to show up either you respond or not and I think with her children. I would prepare Christina on this one, I'm sure Christina will be able to handle it.

    I think you should do whatever you want, though if she shows up and there is NO seat for her or her children fireworks may happen! 

    RSVP is tough, some people just don't realize how invaluable this process is for us brides. **sigh**
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
    Knottie Warrior 500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I would have just said "well, we needed an RSVP in order to tell our caterers you'd actually be eating something(duh), but feel free to come to the ceremony . . ."

    Seriously, you don't need this kind of stuff right before your wedding.  At this point in the game that's what you're coordinator is for.
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