"It looks like too much dress for you"

CvilleClaire · April 2011

Anyone know what that quote means?

I *think* I've found my dress. I sent a picture of it to my mother, who loved it. I sent a picture to four women at work, who loved it. My friends loved it. My future mother-in-law, who has never said anything that has upset me said "it looks like too much dress for you."

It's an A-line dress, not a ballgown.

I know, I know. Just ignore it. Of course, now I'm wondering if everyone's saying they love it just to be nice to me!

sprtychick10 · April 2011

I would ask her nicely to explain what she means. Sometimes its hard to get the true meaning of what someone means through emails.

SoSaysTara · April 2011

She probably just thinks the dress overwhelms you.. and she's worried people will focus more on the dress than on you.. but I mean, isn't that kinda what we want sometimes? I'm sure it's gorgeous!

MMRoberts11 · April 2011

I agree, I'd ask her to elaborate. Do you mind posting a pic for us to see it too?

CassandraPotter · April 2011

it usually means the dress is overwhelming but thats weird to say if its an a-line dress. Usuaully people only say it if its a ball gown.

DrPB2b13 · April 2011

If you love it, I say go for it. I'd love to see a picture, though!

My guess is that your FMIL just envisioned you in something small and sleek rather than something more traditional, but I agree with PP that you should ask her to elaborate. BUT, don't let it get to you! If YOU love the dress and it definitely feels like "the one," don't sweat it. If you truly feel you look beautiful in it, you will come your wedding day, and nobody is going to say otherwise as you walk down the aisle.

WEEZIE918 · April 2011

Ditto what everyone else says...and remember...you aren't going to be able to please everyone...so don't try. What is important is what you like and how you feel about it.

julbgordo · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_looks-like-much-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:2aeeaa17-8555-43d5-9924-c81cdc8bd67fPost:c3250cc2-8526-464b-a2bf-8faace11dd39">Re: "It looks like too much dress for you"</a>:
[QUOTE]Ditto what everyone else says...and remember...you aren't going to be able to please everyone...so don't try. What is important is what you like and how you feel about it.
Posted by WEEZIE918[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>This exactly. I wouldnt' worry about it anyway. In a year she probably won't even remember what the dress was supposed to look like. Get the one you love.</div>

doeie04 · April 2011

I think she meant that it is too fancy/elaborate/etc. I would say this when I tried on a dress that was just not my taste.

Maybe she didn't picture you in that fancy of a dress? Who knows. She probably didn't mean it in a bad way, and if she did, it was her opinion, and you asked for it, right?

MaryLaura13 · April 2011

I feel your pain... I am nervous my FMIL will say something negative about my dress when she see it!

But if you love it... then go for it! You have to feel comfortable and love it!

CvilleClaire · April 2011

I didn't really ask her opinion and she knows it's a done deal, too.

Oh well. Neither of our mothers are the type to gush enthusiastically. I'm over it.

courtneyclare103 · April 2011

When I went dress shopping for the second time, my FMIL came along. I already had a favorite dress and I waited to put that one on last. Everyone said it was their favorite. FMIL said it was beautiful, but I could tell it wasn't her favorite. It didn't make me feel any different about it though--we have totally different tastes, so of course my favorite dress isn't going to be hers. I'd just let it roll off your back!

Also, I'll give you the advice one consultant told me--don't let too many people see your dress. If you show it to too many people, eventually someone may tell you they don't like it and it will hurt your feelings.

CvilleClaire · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_looks-like-much-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:2aeeaa17-8555-43d5-9924-c81cdc8bd67fPost:2955f6d9-ff9e-4072-909a-9855318adc2c">Re: "It looks like too much dress for you"</a>:
[QUOTE]Also, I'll give you the advice one consultant told me--don't let too many people see your dress.
Posted by courtneyclare103[/QUOTE]
This, oddly, is impossible. But I can't really share too much until next month. :)

Danidawn20 · April 2011

I agree with the previous posts, she could very well mean that the dress is overwhelming you. I know I get that alot, (I'm short under 5 feet) and even A-line gowns sometimes have too much fabric and drown me. I would just ask her to elaborate more to see what she is thinking.

tdq · April 2011

I'm wondering if it's because she hasn't seen the dress with the alterations, yet? I got comments like that on occasion because I have a small frame. Once the dress is altered, no one makes those. (In my experience, not just referencing bridal gowns). Maybe that's it? But if you love the dress, go for it. You're wearing it; she isn't.