HELP! MinLAW GAVE ME HIDEOUS EARRINGS TO WEAR ON BIG DAY! Pic included omg.

Katleading · March 2010

Dear Knotties,
HELP! My mother-in-law, who is nice but a terrible, terrible gift giver, gave me a pair of earrings this week, that she said she "hoped I would wear for the wedding". OMG HERE THEY ARE, I FOUND THEM ONLINE: http://www.jewelry.com/piece.do?id=382
OH MY GOD, WHY WOULD I EVER WEAR THESE ON MY WEDDING DAY? I mean, yes, I like dolphins, fine, Flipper is cool with me, but WHY IN GOD'S NAME WOULD I WEAR THESE? FOR MY WEDDING?
When she gave them to me, I kind of politely made an "erk" sound and was non-commital, but I will, at some point, have to tell her that I'm definitely not wearing them. Fiance is equally horrified at terrible aquatic jewelry, but doesn't know what to say- his mom is super sensitive and takes everything personally.
WHAT DO I DO? I REALLY DON'T WANT TO WEAR THEM TO LIKE, MY REHEARSAL DINNER TO MAKE UP FOR NOT WEARING THEM ON MY WEDDING! Can I "lose" them somewhere?
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

RachNRich · March 2010

Thank her for the gift, and let her know you've already purchased earrings to match your dress. Perhaps you could wear the earrings she gave you to the rehearsal dinner?

But seriously, it's not that big of a deal. Calm down.

EmmaBride2B · March 2010

Whatever you do don't E-MAIL HER IN ALL CAPS LIKE YOU'RE YELLING!!!!??!?!?!!

katiewhompus · March 2010

Um...deal down the caps and punctuation drama llama.

Just tell her that while you love the earrings (yes, say it) you had already chosen pieces that were dear to you for the wedding. Thank her for the gift and next time you go over to visit wear them.

Or send them to me, I honestly think they are very beautiful and would totally have worn them to a RD.

crfische · March 2010

How about you don't be a spaz, tell her you already have earring to wear but THANK YOU and wear them to dinner at your inlaws, and then...I don't know...

CALM THE FVCK DOWN!?

danieliza1127 · March 2010

Wear them to your bridal shower or rehearsal dinner. No one will look very closely at them, especially if you wear your hair down (assuming you don't have short hair). Just tell her that you already picked out earrings to go with your dress but you really look forward to wearing these at the shower or rehearsal dinner.

pumpkinpumpkin · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_minlaw-gave-hideous-earrings-wear-big-day-pic-included-omg?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:47bd5d11-ec10-4499-ba46-ca0fdc270b4cPost:e4f11417-9b5e-4eaf-a933-074247d018e3">HELP! MinLAW GAVE ME HIDEOUS EARRINGS TO WEAR ON BIG DAY! Pic included omg.</a>:
[QUOTE]Dear Knotties, HELP! My mother-in-law, who is nice but a terrible, terrible gift giver, gave me a pair of earrings this week, that she said she "hoped I would wear for the wedding". OMG HERE THEY ARE, I FOUND THEM ONLINE: <a href="http://www.jewelry.com/piece.do?id=382" rel="nofollow">http://www.jewelry.com/piece.do?id=382</a> OH MY GOD, WHY WOULD I EVER WEAR THESE ON MY WEDDING DAY? I mean, yes, I like dolphins, fine, Flipper is cool with me, but WHY IN GOD'S NAME WOULD I WEAR THESE? FOR MY WEDDING? When she gave them to me, I kind of politely made an "erk" sound and was non-commital, but I will, at some point, have to tell her that I'm definitely not wearing them. Fiance is equally horrified at terrible aquatic jewelry, but doesn't know what to say- his mom is super sensitive and takes everything personally. WHAT DO I DO? I REALLY DON'T WANT TO WEAR THEM TO LIKE, MY REHEARSAL DINNER TO MAKE UP FOR NOT WEARING THEM ON MY WEDDING! Can I "lose" them somewhere? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by Katleading[/QUOTE]

LIKE, OMG. yOU'Re HIDEOUS.

scoetto · March 2010

I kinda wish hideous earrings were my only problems in life. OH. EM. GEE.

FutureMrsTR · March 2010

Wow, I looked at them and they are way better than I was expecting from your little meltdown here.

Ditto pp, just thank her, tell her you have earrings to match your dress and wear them to the rehearsal dinner. Wear your hair down if you're so horrified by them.

ZRex · March 2010

LOL! Come on guys, this is kind of hilarious. What the hell is up with people and dolphins anyway???

I have a really pushy, annoying FMIL, so I get where you are coming from. I'd either tell her that you already have earrings for the big day, or make something up about how you're allergic to the posts, or just say thank you and then pretend like you forgot them.

And just remember, you not wanting to wear them is totally valid. Even if she gets pissed off, you are in the right.

kkchisholm · March 2010

uhh...

JessAndTrav · March 2010

I think they're lovely.

Katleading · March 2010

I'm only yelling to be funny, and because my fiance and I keep looking at them in horror and giggling helplessly.
Dude, do you want to wear hideous dolphin earrings on your wedding day? Blegh.

BecW2be · March 2010

HOW DARE HER?!?!? I fucking hate people who give me gifts. Seriously. I also hate when I can't politely thank her, wear them when she's around, and then just man up and tell her I have another pair in mind for my wedding day.

I seriously thought they'd have dead babies swinging from them, from your dramatic post. So there's a bright side: Dolphins are better than dead babies on earrings.

MrsRicePudding · March 2010

Wow, some of us Knotties are catty today!

Don't "lose" them or lie about being allergic. That will come back to haunt you someday.

Tell her you have a different vision of earrings to wear, they don't match the dress, or that you already have some. Better yet, tell her that they're interesting, but that you're not sure dolphins or dangling earrings are your style.

Then, tell her that you appreciate her thought, and add it to your bouquet. you could slip it in with the flowers, or have it tucked into the wrapping. That way it's with you, and yet it's not obvious (or visible) to anyone who doesn't know where to look.

It's okay to not like them, but don't lie and tell her you love them because then you set ourself up for years of gifts like these.

Good luck!

aMrsin09 · March 2010

OK, the earrings aren't totally awful, but I see not wanting to wear them for the wedding.

Since she is super sensitive, I think the "I have already found a pair to match my dress" may still hurt her feelings. Since the ones you found have no "meaning" why can't you just swap them? KWIM?

I think you should find a nice pair of inexpensive pearl earrings and tell her that they are your grandmothers (or insert a dearly departed female relative). At least that way the pearl earring "sentiment" would trump the "gift from FMIL sentiment".

Katleading · March 2010

Mrow. All right, ladies. I'm taking this post elsewhere, as I seemed to have aroused ire. Apologies if I've inadvertently offended.
The thing about dead baby earrings is they weigh your ears down something terrible.

crfische · March 2010

We don't get offended.

I think you are the one who is offended by dolphin earrings.

You're being irrational, so stop it, wear the earrings to a different function and be done with it, dude.

crfische · March 2010

Holy crap, what happened to that board?

BecW2be · March 2010

It died and suffered a unicorn and rainbows death followed by a puppies and ice cream funeral.

kikibaby · March 2010

Snarky aka Whiny Brides. We need to start a petition to change the name, for real.

danieliza1127 · March 2010

Well shoot, I was going to tell her that she handled the responses and snark here pretty well! But I take it back if she went to another board and complained about us.

crfische · March 2010

It's just soo....sad over there.

Kind of feels a bit like NEY. Only, these ladies THINK they're snarky.

It's so sad.

nhelene · March 2010

I don't really get the point of a specialized 'snarky' spot anyway.

I've been on other boards where there is a particular section where you can be as offensive as you like, and if you bring it to the main boards you're slapped on the wrist and told to take it to the offensive board next time. But that's not the case here.

ootmother2 · March 2010

They're not THAT bad. Wear them to the RD and leave your hair down.

get over it, she was trying to please you

NuggetBrain · March 2010

Eh, my FMIL gave me a purse that isn't even remotely my style and doesn't go with my dress at all. But I might still wear it, just to make her happy. If not, I'll wear it at the rehearsal dinner, or tell her I'm bringing it along on the honeymoon to wear out to a nice dinner (which I won't be, but she doesn't have to know that). Chances are she'll probably even forget that she gave them to you by then.

CosetteG · March 2010

Those earrings are gross, indeed.

Someone said, just wear them to rehearsal dinner with your hair down and explain that you have some earrings that better match your wedding dress. I think that is polite and a good compromise.

Don't do anything you don't want to do.

mrsamyjones · March 2010

If my FMIL handed me gold dolphin earings and said anything about wearing them to the wedding I might not be able to control the laughter. Seriously wearing those to a wedding is hilarious. I'd write a check to sea world in her honor and throw the earings away. Mammals in general should not find themselves dangling from your ears.

In all seriousness, it's really not that big of a deal, just kinda funny. I think that the girls are right about their suggestions to wear them another night or tucked into your boquet. It's all about being respectful and trying not to offend your FMIL. They actually gave you some great advice.

SunnyCanadian · March 2010

LOL oh man those are pretty ugly! Good luck telling your FMIL that you aren't wearing them!

HELP! MinLAW GAVE ME HIDEOUS EARRINGS TO WEAR ON BIG DAY! Pic included omg.

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