Pastor marrying us at another church?

Re: Pastor marrying us at another church?

• ElisabethJoanne member

  

  July 2012

  The best thing would be to find a local church where you'd like to have your ceremony and ask that church. It is possible. I've seen it done. But the rules vary tons from church to church and pastor to pastor.

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• DeannaCW member

  

  July 2012

  We're doing this. We attend one church, but are marrying at the one I grew up at due to location issues and "smoothing things over for the highly-Catholic-when-it-suits-them-FI's-family" reasons.  (It's a huge deal to them we're marrying Protestant, so going with a more formal church).  We're bringing in our current pastor as we're really close to him. It will depend on the denomination, and if you can stay within the same denomination that will probably help. If you go across denominations, you may run into issues, say if the pastor isn't allowed to marry in other churches, or if the church you want it at doesn't allow outside pastors.  So go ahead and ask around and find out the rules. My advice? Stay within the same denomination, makes life easier. Or at least start out that way while you're figuring out what questions to ask.

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  July 2012

  I would try to find a church that has very similar beliefs as the pastor does. A friend of ours did this because their home church was too small to accommodate all their guests but they wanted their own pastor to marry them. A church in town was willing to allow that because their beliefs matched up with the pastor's church's beliefs. I would just call around and ask. It can't hurt. They did say it was the only church they called in the city (out of like 10 they had called) that would allow them to bring in their own pastor.

  
  
  
  
  

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• lostmykeys member

  

  July 2012

  Some churches insist on a member of their staff as the officiant.  Some will allow other pastors to participate.  Some do so on approval.  You just need to call around and see what the policy for each church is.

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• Spunky414 member

  

  July 2012

  I had friends who married in our university's non denominational chapel with their own pastor. Something like that might work for you.

   
  

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• KT020803

  

  July 2012

  You'll have to talk to both the pastor and find out what his church's rules are and what the church you want to get married in thinks. We tried to have a previous pastor that did FI grandpartents funerals and we really liked come back to do our wedding and it wasn't allowed.

  

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