I went shopping with my maids a few weeks ago, not to purchase yet, but to get ideas. One of my maids of honour is a bit on the chubby side, carrying most of the weight in the front of her stomach, though not very much in her sides.
She tried on this one dress that was made of an awfully filmy material, because it had looked really great on the first maid who tried it on. I thought it looked really great on her as well.
It was made with a sheer layer over a more opaque one, with the sheer layer gathered slightly under the bustline in the front in a way that all the way down the front middle of the skirt there is this very narrow band of material. It almost looks like a ribbon except that it's the part of the skirt. I thought it looked great on her as well because the thin line of material gave a slimming effect, and because the eye sort of lands there, it camoflaged the fact that her stomach sticks out slightly.
Because it's such a lightweight material though, she felt self conscious because it can be a bit clingy. But the places where it may cling on her are where she doesn't have any extra weight.
She tried on a different one after, similar style but in a more structure material. Instead of the ribbon of material down the front it just had a sort of belt of material in a different colour right under the bustline. She felt a lot more comfortable in this one, but I thought her stomach sticking out was much more noticable. I didn't say anything though because they weren't planning to buy that day anyway, and I had no clue how to without hurting her feelings.
Is there any way at all to mention why I think the one looks better then the other without completely hurting her feelings? I'm torn between knowing that many people want to be told if they have a chunk of lettuce in their teeth, for example, and knowing that this may be really hard for her to hear. Or should we just scrap both dress ideas and move on?
"People tell me the engagement will fly by and we'll be married before I know it, but it hasn't felt like that so far"