FI is TOTALLY against guests clinking glasses to get us to kiss. He thinks its obnoxious and rude. I wonder how much people would actually do it (the weddings I've been to, it's been just a handful of times, before people get occupied with things like food and dance!). FI feels pretty strongly about putting a note on the table asking guests to please not clink glasses to get us to kiss. In the past, he's seen other couples have guests need to do something before we'll kiss (a whole table stand up and sing a song about love, for example).
I'm not really keen on putting a note on the table, I think that's a little rude, too. Should it be a word of mouth thing that we won't want glasses clinked? Should it just be sucked up, for the few times it'll happen during the reception? Do you have any other ideas?