MOB/MOG attire - anyone decided yet?

ChiGirl2013 · December 2012

Does anyone know what their MOB or MOG are wearing? Our wedding is pretty informal, so I envision the moms just buying something off the rack at Macy's or something like that.

Are the moms supposed to match? FI is estranged from his mom so obviously she's not invited. My mom is going, along with my aunt (who raised me as a child and is like a 2nd mom to me.) My dad is also engaged but in no hurry to set a date. I'm guessing my mom and aunt will confer with each other since they're sisters, but does it really matter if they're in the same color? Do I have to include my future stepmother in the clothing discussion? (She has barely said 3 words to me in the 2 years she's been with my dad and I get the feeling she has no desire to know me, much less attend my wedding.)

Christine9866 · December 2012

My mom is wearing this dress by Watters http://watters.com/Product/Collection20/6499 but in a slate blue. She loves it, and she can totally pull it off with our rustic themed barn wedding. She keeps saying out of my sisters and brothers weddings this dress is by far her favorite. For both of those weddings she shopped off the rack at macys. For my brothers wedding his mil, and my mom actually had the same dress but a different color, no coordination at all! needless to say she was a little annoyed, but there was nothing you can do about it, and how often does that happen.

I dont think the moms are supposed to match, and are you including your future step mom in the ceremony at all? I would say if you are bring it up, if not I don't think it really matter. I am sure your mom and your aunt will confer and i dont think it will matter if they have the same color.

LuckyGirl1713 · December 2012

The mothers do not have to match and in my opinion they shouldn't. So they should confer a bit to make sure they don't end up wearing similiar dresses. My mother is looking for dresses now and my MIL keeps saying she'll go shopping a week before the wedding. She says that just to drive me crazy!

[Deleted User] · December 2012

Christine-do you know how much your mom's dress costs?

My mom and I are going shopping for hers while I'm home for Christmas and we're trying to figure out where to go, since she lives in the middle of nowhere. I'm paying for her dress since she and Dad are short on funds and with the added expense of the rest of the wedding, I'm looking for something that is reasonably priced that will make her feel great.

FMIL went out and bought her dress a month or two after we got engaged without asking me for input at all. She chose a dress at DB that was marked down to $7.00!?!?! Our colors are light blue and ivory and hers is a blue base with shimmery copper thread woven into the fabric. I was a bit taken aback that she chose a dress in the color family of our wedding color and I was worried it will clash with the BM dresses. Now, I think I'm too busy to care about what she's wearing but my mom and I thought maybe she(my mom) should wear cobalt or another bold blue just to go along with what everyone else is wearing so she doesn't stick out too much. Honestly, at this point, I'm not too worried about it, I just want her to choose something she likes :-)

For my sister's wedding her MIL chose a dress that was burnt orange and clashed horribly with the wine colored BM dresses. My sister asked her to choose a different color to avoid this so she chose a bright blue/teal sort of color and stuck out like a sore thumb. My mom had a muted silvery/grey long dress with a long-sleeved jacket with beading on it. It was very classy and she loved it! As a rule, I don't think the mom's have to match and I think I heard somewhere that it was best if they avoided white/ivory/cream, etc and the wedding colors. Not sure on that one, though.

BrittRN+ · December 2012

My mom bought a really pretty dress from Macy's. I love it! It's short, dark blue, with a pretty understated sequin belt. It will look perfect on the beach.

[Deleted User] · December 2012

My mom is wearing a STUNNING blue two piece with a jacket and my colors are light blue and navy. I had no issue with that. I've told FMIL, FGMIL and FSMIL what my mom's wearing and I think they're going to try to avoid my mom's color as per the tradition where MOB picks and MOG then tries to wear a different color. Frankly, I didn't care what anyone wore and, if you don't, then I think that's fine. My main concern was that everyone knew the level of formality so that my mom didn't show up in a ball gown while FMIL showed up in a sundress and felt awkward (unless she wants a sundress, which is fine by me - i just didn't want anyone not aware of what the level we were going for was, you know?)

Chi - As for including future step mom, I'd just maybe let her know the plan (when you figure it out) her via an email or something? She doesn't have to respond or care then, but then it's also not on you that you didn't make an effort, you know?

orangehills · December 2012

I have no idea what my mom or MIL are wearing. I figure they are grown women, and they know how to dress appropriately for a wedding, so whatever they choose is fine! I'm sure my FSIL will advise his mom and I know my mom will probably show me what she bought when she finally gets something. It's a pretty casual wedding so I'm not even going to worry about it lol. But fyi, I love that dress Christine!

Christine9866 · December 2012

lch-watters is on the pricier side and I was a bit concerned when my mom fell in love with it. Its actually more then the bridesmaid dresses, eeekk! She paid a little over $300. I am sure if you call around to different stores you might be able to find it at a different price. Its a two piece suit set that she might not need alterations on. The jacket is not meant to come off so there is nothing to go under it. My mom might wear a cami but doesnt plan to take the jacket off.

[Deleted User] · December 2012

Oy! DB and department stores it is! Hahaha :-) It really is a beautiful dress!

Spunky414 · December 2012

My mom is planning on wearing a little black dress she has already, I'm trying to get her to find a different dress or a cover up so she doesn't freeze since it's a summer weight dress. My FMIL is going to wear a copper and brown cocktail dress from Nordstroms. I didn't ask them to match or go with the wedding colors or anything and I only know what they are wearing because they told me.

ChiGirl2013 · December 2012

Thanks, ladies! I honestly don't care what they wear, as long as they're wearing SOMETHING. lol I remember my oldest sister's wedding 10 years ago and it was a HUGE issue with the MOB, MOG, and my aunt all trying to argue about what to wear, who wears what, etc. I didn't get it then, and I don't get it now. I honestly could care less but I know my mom and my aunt will get together and figure it out. My aunt has great taste and I know she will help my mom - who is the type that's most comfy in jeans and a sweatshirt.

As for my dad's future wife, I don't have her email or phone number so I guess that leaves her out. Darn. lol I figure she's had a daughter and a son get married, she knows the drill. If she's worried about what to wear, she can take the first step and contact me. Every time I've tried to talk to her, she's been a B so I don't even bother with her anymore, aside from a cordial "hello" or "goodbye."

tiny speck · December 2012

No idea yet, and I don't mind what they wear as long as it's not white/cream/champagney coloured. I doubt that would be a problem though. My FMIL asked what my mom would be wearing about a month ago and I was like, crap, do I have to figure this out now!!?? I'm sure it will be settled over the holidays.

Spunky414 · December 2012

That's an awesome dress, looking at all these dresses makes me miss formals and dances.

redjellybean128 · December 2012

I still have to go with my FMIL, but my mom got her dress a couple of weeks ago at Lord and Taylor. It was perfect - she needed a size that the store didn't have and they had it shipped for free from another store to her house. She was thrilled with it. My grandmother also got a fantastic outfit there as well (she found a dressy jacket and dress pants - she didn't want a dress).

My FMIL wants to go to DB for hers - anyone know how long it takes for the dresses to come in if they need to be ordered? I don't want to push it too close - I'm going to try and see if we can go in the next couple of weeks

Good luck!

[Deleted User] · December 2012

My mom is wearing this dress by J Kara, which we bought at Nordstroms. FMIL is wearing this dress by Adrianna Papell, in Blueberry. We got a STEAL on it at Macy's on Black Friday (online!). I highly recommend Nordstroms and Macy's for the older mothers of the bride/groom, the stuff we saw at the bridal shops is geared towards women in their 40's. FI and I are 35/36, and our moms are a wee bit older than that.

My dress is an ivory/champagne color, and I actually kind of like that my mom is wearing something in the same color family, although I know that some brides might not be okay with that. I think our pictures together are going to look great because we'll be in complementary colors--but that's just me. FMIL actually loves purple, which is one of the wedding colors. Initially we were looking for something in the purple color family (in the pastel range rather than plum), but she looked GREAT in the blue dress and it really complimented her skin tone. They are both having their dresses shortened to calf-length, since the bridesmaids are wearing short dresses.

I told both my mom and FMIL to pick something out that made them feel beautiful. It didn't matter to me what color or style. The most important thing to me was that they feel confident, comfortable, and most especially, beautiful in whatever they chose to wear. I'm my mother's only daughter, and FI is his mother's only child. I want our wedding day to be very special for both of the moms, and I want them to look radiant in the wedding photos.

I can't wait to see them all dressed up on the big day!

mabapunta · December 2012

I don't think they need to match. My FMIL has already found her dress - it's a flowy chiffon dress in a dark teal color. She loves green but didn't want to get a dress in the same color as our wedding colors. I have no idea what my mom will wear, and it's actually something I plan to help her with - she's blind and doesn't really shop much. My only requirement is that they do NOT wear white or ivory...and then no depressing black or anything.

FFIL and my dad are wearing grey tuxes with black vests/ties in the same style as FI and groomsmen (altho FI in white and GM in clover green).

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